*trigger warning* my experience w sexual assault

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i went to a party w a couple mates and some guys we didn’t know turned up and basically one thing led to another and one of the guys i’d never met and a girl i’d met before ended up going into a bedroom. i hadn’t noticed seeing as i was somewhere else in the house. it wasn’t long before the girls friend started getting rlly stressed out and worried abt her friend who was very drunk in the room w a guy she’d never met. i can’t stop thinking abt what i could’ve done better. There’s not a day that passes without me thinking abt it which makes me very uncomfortable and upset, i just wish there was smthn i could’ve done and i wish i reacted better. this happened a while ago and i thought that it would only be up to a week of me replaying the situation in my head, but it’s been going on for months and i don’t know how to stop it. i’m not really sure what to do and i was hoping someone on this forum could help me find strategies to cope with this? if not that’s okay.

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi _blank,

Thank you for reaching out to us and I hope that you can find some really good support here. I'd love to try and help too, but I just want to make sure I understand the party first if that's ok? So there were both girls and guys at this party that you'd never met, and you did see one girl and one guy go into a bedroom, and then later you saw a friend getting stressed out, and I assume trying to find her? But I'm also trying to understand that the only thing that you knew about this couple was that she was drunk?

Have I got that right? Sorry for the questions, I just want to make sure I understand. It sounds like you have put a lot of responsibility on yourself for this, and I'm not sure that you need to.

rt

[Ggrand]

Hello _blank...

A warm welcome to our forums...

I am so sorry you are struggling with what happened at the party..

I can’t see how you could have done anything as you were in another room and knew nothing about what happened until after it had happened....You honestly have nothing to feel bad about...Please don’t be hard on yourself..you done nothing wrong at all....

What works for me when my mind goes over and over things I don’t want to be thinking about...is distracting those those onto something else...music, hobbies I like doing, anything that takes my thoughts away from the overpowering and negative thoughts....

Our mind can only think of one thing at a time..maybe next time your thoughts are on what happened...try to do something that you enjoy....

We have a Grounding thread that could be of help to you..if you feel up to reading it...it’s entirely up to you Dear _blank..no pressure at all...the thread title is...”Grounding What is it and how do we”...

Talk here anytime you feel up to it...

My kindest and caring thoughts, lovely _blank....we are here for you...

Grandy..