The last one left

[Marc_01]

Hi,,,,, My mother died of breast cancer 30yrs ago at 50yrs old, my brother died in his sleep 8 yrs ago at 48yrs , my sister died 3yrs ago of breast cancer at 53yrs , i was diagnosed with prostate cancer at 52yrs , after surgery and 4yrs into remission all is ok ,, it get's lonely when your the last one left , stay safe everyone

[mmMekitty]

Hello Marc01

I'm pleased to welcome you to the forum.

I'm so sorry you have had to deal with so much loss in your life. UYou would have been fairly young when you lost your mother. Then to lose your brother & sister, also at relatively young ages. Now you've had to deal with a diagnosis & treatment of Prostate Cancer. I can understand how lonely you might feel after all of this.

I'm certainly glad your cancer is in remission. It's scary stuff, all the same.

I have relied upon a carer to help me through my own diagnosis of breast cancer, November last year. She has supported me to get to appointments, & without her I would have lost it completely.

You indicate you are the only one of your family left. Do you have anyone close, who you can rely upon for support? Anyone you can talk to?

You are welcome to talk here, but I don't think we can quite make up for face to face conversations with someone.

Kind thoughts to you,

mmMekitty

[geoff]

Hello Marc, welcome to the site, and what you have been through has been such an awful, not only time, but a heartbreaking experience, that no one should have to go through.

Fours in remission and you have a good report is a bonus that you were hoping for at last, men know what prostate cancer does to our body, but we learn to adjust to this and hope our partner/spouse can accept it as well.

It must be terrible being the last one left in your family, but hopefully it doesn't stop you from enjoying your life, and if you like, it would be great to hear a little more from you.

Someone very close to me developed this at around your age, while my Dad didn't have it until he was in his 90's, so we just donn't know.

All the best.

Geoff.

[second time]

marc 01,

I am happy you have remission with your cancer.

I lost my mother with MS when I was 13, only grand parent who was alive in my life when I was 14 my father took his life when I was 10 my brother (Only sibling) took his life last October, it is very lonely being the last left from your immediate family. Also My Aunt who raised me from 7 years old died a few months ago.

I am 44 and lucky to have a partner and 4 year old daughter-but that foundation is silent to share memories.

She also understands this lonelyness in a different way. She has lost her mother and father to cancer and her only sibling sister has disowned her due to dellusional thinking (The sister that is)

Our daughter has no Grandparents and now no uncles or Aunts. I worry how small her circle is, we try and fill it with enough love to compensate, this has been much harder since my brothers passing.

Step by step, breath by breath we will reform.