SexualAbuse

[Ne12]

I was sexually abused as a child , I recently told my mother - who completely ignored me and said I was lying . I also have a mother that is very selfish and constantly wants me not let her know when anything is wrong . I feel trapped as we live together and she constantly threatens me saying she’s ll ruin my reputation

[geoff]

Hello Ne, and thanks for posting your comment.

I am truly sorry for what you told us and understand how upset you must be feeling and disappointed that your mother has disregarded the trauma you have had to endure.

I need to take your comment slowly because I want to keep talking with you so am I able to ask you a few questions and only answer if you want to,

-have this culprit been caught and charged

-are you at school, uni or have a job

-have you had any medical help and is there a possibility of moving out.

I am very sorry to ask you these questions, but I am concerned for you and the situation you are in.

Take care.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[romantic_thi3f]

Hello Ne12,

Welcome to the forums and thank you for being here and opening up to us.

Like Geoff, I'm really sorry that you've had to go through this - and I feel so frustrated for you that your mother ignored you and said you were lying. I'm imagining that it must have been so hard to hear when maybe what you needed to hear was that she believed you and she was sorry that you had to go through that.

For what it's worth, I hope you can find some support here. Sadly you're not alone in not being validated right when you needed to be, so know that I believe you.

[PamelaR]

Hi Ne

Geoff and Romantic_thi3f have given you some great support.

Being sexually abused is wrong, validation from your mother is not necessary. You know it happened and that's what's important!

Lets here what you have to say to Geoff's questions above - it will help support you.

Kind regards

PamelaR

[She91]

Hi Ne12,

I feel we are in similar situation dear.

Just few days ago I was also sexually abused by a colleague with whom I had a good relationship. I quit my job for that reason and later when the manager came to know about the incident, he tried to threaten me of losing a case if I file a complaint so just to save his business name.
And yes, what is more disheartening than the sexual abuse is not getting the support and more worst is when someone tries to make you look wrong.

I suffered from hard times and was constantly thinking about it over and over again.
But what made me bit relaxed is talking with people and posting here online. I am happy that there are some good people who wants to listen and help.
I have finally raised my voice to some authority.
I believe you are doing right by talking this out and there is always a way to settle this out. We just need to find out how.
Take care dear

[geoff]

Hello She91, and a warm welcome to the site as well.

What you have told us I am truly so sorry that you had to suffer from this terrible event, but very pleased you have been able to open up to us.

I can't tell you what to do but if you feel as though you are strong enough to persevere, then please look after yourself.

Take care.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[Alexlisa]

Hello Ne,

A warm welcome to the forums. I’m glad you reached out here.

It sounds like such a difficult position you’re in. I was wondering if you’d like to access some services that exist that may be able to give you some advice and a caring ear.

The first is Blue Knot. They are an organisation supporting survivors of childhood trauma and abuse. They have a helpline on 1300 657 380 that you can call between 9am-5pm, 7 days per week. They can offer you support and information about other things that may help. Their website is:

blue knot.org.au

Another service is 1800RESPECT which is the national sexual assault and domestic violence counselling service. I’ve been told that they can provide support for survivors of childhood sexual abuse. They have a 24hr counselling line on 1800 737 732. They also have an online chat counselling service 24hrs at:

1800respect.org.au

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. Please know that you’re not alone, and you shouldn’t have to do this alone. Take care.

Alexlisa