seeing dad die

[Guest_8189]

i saw my dad die in infront of me from a heart attack in august. im broken, im not ready to see a therapist yet so i just want to talk here, just would like to talk to someone.

[Quercus]

Hello Suffering and welcome to the forums.

I have no idea how you must feel but I care and want you to know people are listening.

There is no right or wrong way to deal with trauma or grief. So if you're not ready to talk to a therapist that is ok too. I'm thankful that you have come here and are able to reach out somehow.

My Grandma died of a heart attack and Mum provided CPR until the ambulance arrived and watched my Grandad grieve his wife of 54 years. She cannot speak about it and I can understand this.

It is easy to say focus on the good memories. But sometimes traumatic events are overwhelming. Mum gets this look at times when we're talking about Grandma and I suspect she is trying not to remember.

I don't know if it helps you or hurts you to tell you this I'm sorry. I was hoping it would make you feel less alone but really I have no idea how to help.

If you want to talk I will listen and help however I can. Even just knowing someone out there cares enough to just sit with me for a while has helped me in the past.

Do you have anyone offline supporting you too (friends or family?). I hope so.

As inadequate as these words always feel I am sorry you had to lose your Dad in this way.

Nat

[geoff]

Hello 01, and I am sincerely sorry that you had to experience this because it's not something anyone would want to happen in front of us, I feel heartbroken for you.

This is something I've also had to witness as my dear Mum passed away in front of me and a few others.

I think that the shock may protect us when it actually happens but as time progresses the hardship of knowing that your dad isn't there to offer any advice or guidance to you starts to sink in.

I'm just wondering whether you have been to see your doctor, seeing the therapist will happen when you feel as though you can talk about it face to face with somebody.

At the moment I hope you feel as though you can talk to us as others may have also had to experience something like this themselves, but I want to thank you and please accept my condolences.

Geoff.