Relationship with psychological abuse. How to end up?

[Lana_1]

Hi.
Im scared to end up our nearly 3years relationship. We set up a date for wedding, but I’m not feeling it’s the right decision. I’m getting more and more depressed.
I tried to end up our relationship before , but my fiancé always stopped me firstly saying that he will change but recently he is threatening me to sue financially, by saying that all his friends from interstate booked their accommodation, and he would not let it happen. Also he won’t let me get my belongings from his house, saying that he will call police on me.
Thanks. I don’t know what to do.
Help me, please.

[Bethie]

Hi

You are entitled to your belongings. The police will normally come with you to collect them if you say you fear for your safety and he will not allow you to collect your things.

As for him sueing you..no chance...fares can be booked as refundable or dates of travel change. If a person has booked a non refundable flight and does not wish to change dates the airlines hold that person responsible.

Our help line should be able to put you in contact with organisations in your area to help you as well.

Depending on who has more money in their super fund and assets you might be able to point out to him that if he wants to get nasty you will pursue a property settlement based on the fact that you where in fact in a defacto relationship.

[Lana_1]

Thanks, Bethie.

I never been in this situation.

I had lovely marriage, after I lost my husband 3years ago. He was the one and best man in my life. I never had experience of bad relationship before.

Thanks again.

[demonblaster]

Hi Lana

By the sounds you're making the right decision

Sorry for your grief you're copping

agree you have a right to your belongings

Best

[Lana_1]

Thanks,Demonblaster.

i always doubted myself, if I’m doing the right decision. I’m always been independent person, now I can’t even do the grocery shopping without him.

It’s more into the psychological abuse.

Thanks.

[demonblaster]

You're very welcome Lana 🙂

Stand by yourself hun

[PBelle]

Dearest Lana,

Honey, you are doing the best thing in your life by getting away from him.

I have a great aunt who is in her 80's and has been in an abusive relationship with her husband for about 60 years. He has controlled her so much that even their daughter treats her abusively. Nothing that the family has done has helped, because she won't budge. She is trapped.

No person should ever be treated like this. I would speak to the police about his behaviour. They will help you get your belongings.

Don't doubt yourself. You have the strength to break away. Be yourself again.

[Juliet_84]

Hi Lana,

im sorry to hear that you are going through this. You once had a lovely relationship, and so I think you know deep down this isn’t right. You can’t be blackmailed into marrying someone, that is not a good start for a marriage that is going to last. You need to start thinking about yourself and planning your escape. Start setting some money aside if you can. Organize to get your belongings and leave when he is not there. You can take a bit of time to prepare, but this life will kill you.

[Lana_1]

Hi,guys.

I have good news. Done and dusted. I end up my relationship by cancelling wedding one week before. What a relief.

Finaly I also understood that he was marrying me for my assets. What I dirty game.

Thank you for all your support. Will keep in touch with all of u.

Need some advice . Can you help me. If any community group to go there and talk to people?

Thanks.

Lana

[demonblaster]

Hi ☺ sounds like you've done the right thing by yourself hope you're happy that you have too

Hard times how are you going darl

Re community group you might be able to find somewhere either internet or fb because you can zone in to what area you need or close by. Good you're looking into that

Or you could try if you have a community centre or close by

Thanks keeping us in the loop hun

Do hope your days are better ⚘