offender has girlfriend who doesn't know what he has done

[psalm_139]

TW - sexual assault.

The person who assaulted me has a girlfriend, who doesn't know what he has done (I assume). I don't know her (personally - have seen her on social media) and she doesn't know me or have any idea who I am.

I am stuck. If my partner had assaulted someone, I would want to know...what would you do in this situation?

I could reach out to her on social media. But am also very scared to do that because of what the offender could do.

Please help.

[jaz28]

Hi psalm,

This is a tricky one. If you feel she is in danger - then it may be the best course of action (anonymously) of course for her own safety.

However, sometimes these things are best left to play out. I know someone who went to prison for assault against an ex-wife, and the present partner has stayed with the assaulter for 10 years, full knowing what they did. People can change, but she may well already know his antics.

If you feel she is in danger you could always contact helplines or authorities too.

Jaz.

[Leo899616]

Hi psalm,

So sorry you are dealing with this.

I agree with Jaz. If you feel as though she may be in danger with him, you can always reach out to her anonymously - just keep in mind if she confronts him, unless he has assaulted others, he will most likely know you told her and this could potentially put you in danger too. Sometimes it's best to let the authorities deal with it, she will most likely find out eventually either way.

Wishing you all the best with whatever decision you make.

- Leo