Hi All,
I feel like I can't think straight about the current situation I am in, so wanted to get some inbiased opinions or event hear about similar situations regarding workplace bullying.
I work for a small company. My boss has a difficult character. His friends have asked me how I can stand working for him, he has had complaints against him from other companies in our coworking space, and is often rude and difficult to deal with. He has every sign of narcissistic personality disorder, inclluding treating people like objects, lacking empathy, having a gradiose opinion of himself and so on. HOWEVER, I am conscious this doesn't mean I have a case for workplace bullying based on his character alone.
When I joined this business I was his first employee and there were no processes in place. It was chaos, to the point where he even missed out on paying me once because he had no system in place to track this. He hired a friend of over 20 years who has a background in communication and business processes. He also hired a personal friend of his to be a consultant (I am also a consultant) and a payroll manager.
Fastforward to a couple of years later and a business that had no processes has multiple processes rolled out every month. They are difficult to keep track of and even though a lot of training and documentation occurs for the sake of these processes, they often change and are very hard to navigate through.
We had an incident earlier this year where he was angry at me for forgetting to do several of these processes, raised his voice at me in front of other staff and other companies, and then proceeded to gossip about me openly in front of my colleague. I told him I had an appointment and was leaving for the day but would see him tomorrow. He blocked my access to emails and clients and said he thought I had resigned, though I never said I resigned in any way. The next day he was still angry, borderline explosive, and I told him I wouldn't discuss any issues without a witness present. He yelled at me until he was read in the face about how angry I make him and how little he trusts me. I finally had to say "I feel bullied" to get him to give me personal space and stop yelling.
