how do i stop the fear

[toots74]

HI im new here just joined i get bad anxiety as i was severley bashed by a man and he said was going to kill me i was supposed to marry 9nov 2014.im on centrelink payments i also suffer from severe depression in which ive struggled since my early 30s im now just over 40.. anyway ever since the dreaded trip i find it hard to be around too many people i get nervous if im in a line like the post office the other day when theres a man standing behind me and hes less than a few feet away get nervous and jittery but i make myself stay there by the time i reach the counter im shaking i find it hard to be in a car with a stranger for example my good car broke down so i was going to purchase a cheap one for time being so the man who was selling the cheap car came and picked me up in which i had no dramas until we were a few kms away from my home i started shaking was nervous i was telling him not to take offence to my nervousness and was explaining why i was like i was by the time we had gotten to where the little car was i felt that anxious i felt like i was going to vomit it took me a good ten mins to calm myself down when i was out of the car with him.I havent had any intentions and im petrified of being close to a man even in a sexual way does anyone have any idea on how to overcome this? ive pretty much had emotional trauma since childhood and ive coped with everything until this it really gets too me

[OhmeOhmy]

Hi Toots

It sounds like your anxiety is overwhelming and that you are going through a hard time at the moment. I'm sorry to hear of the trauma you have experienced. It's great that you were able to posts on here and reach out for help, that is the first step to getting better is being able to ask for help and support. For me counselling has really helped and I have learned many things to help me manage my anxiety. Is there someone you could talk to about what you're going through, like a GP, counselor or someone you trust?

For me Acceptance and Commitment Therapy really helped, you can google it and read about it to see if its something you think may help you. There are lots of wise people on this forums who have overcome anxiety, depression and more so please read through the forums, that really helps me. I am always learning on here and by reading and realising that so many people are going through the same thing and that you are not alone in this.

Please let us know how you are doing.

[white knight]

Hi toots welcome

A long time ago I had similar symptoms. I had therapy that allowed my mind to return to realistic thoughts.

So I agree with ohmeohmy.

Attend your GP for a visit and referral. Its OK, you'll get to a better place this way.

And we are there to help.

Tony WK