I met my partner at my last work. We got together just a little under a year after leaving the company and on October 1st 2018 we celebrated our 3rd year anniversary, he started to move things into my place and apart from family issues in Melbourne, things were on track. I kept being told that I was loved, we had a future together and that 2019 will be 'our year'. It was all lies.
During the entire 3 years of our relationship, he was with another woman. I found out about her in January 2018, due to suspicious messages and was told she was a 'psycho stalker friend that was in love with him and he didn't have the same feelings.
Like a good person i believed him, he constantly told me how much he loved me.
The rest of the year was spent, begging to see him, he constantly changing dates and times that we could see each other and changing every move in date we had. People i know live all far away, so when he canceled seeing me i couldnt make other plans, so I spent 2018 very isolated and depressed.
He saw me for a half day 20th december and moved in some items, telling me our future will be wonderful. He told me he had to fly back to Melbourne for christmas (family issues) and would move in completely the 27th december.
In a state of loneliness a day or so after christmas, i looked the other woman up again. To my complete disbelief, I found out that he married her the date I came back from the US, which was over a month ago, the 25th November 2018 from facebook photos she had posted.
Heartbroken and in a state of shock, I contacted him to hear that he is indeed married and with the same woman I had fears of in January 2018.
The last 3 years of my life have been a complete lie and has caused me significant emotional and financial pain.
She made him call me in the afternoon on speaker to apologise, as she listened in. Even though she heard what I said she seemed almost indifferent and agitated that i'd be upset for this disgraceful act. At one point even laughing at the money spent on his birthday and christmas presents which included a new iphone, fitbit, etc... Isn't that theft by deception! The police didnt think so.
I feel used, betrayed, worthless, alone and lied to soo very pathologically, that neither he nor his wife understands the gravity or situation in which I was extremely unfairly placed. I feel like an idiot and can't understand how anyone could be so manipulating. Me met everyone in my family and friends. Came to two family christmas's....
