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Domestic violence trauma

Buu79
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Hi not sure how to start this story as it's quite difficult I come from a background of F&DV and Child sexual abuse, my father used to assault my mum nearly everyday he used to physically assault me and my brother's and my dad was messed up badly on drugs, once we got older we left home my parents divorced and my brother went with mum I went my own way I had a job where I thought one of the workers there was quite good looking but apparently he had a family anyway we ended up catching up and we fell in love he was charming and bought me jewelry and flowers and treated me special, then I got pregnant to him and everything changed he threatened to physically harm me while pregnant, this should have been my first red flag, but next time I seen him and mentioned it he said sorry he was joking but I had noticed his demeanor had changed and he was happier than usual, then just before our daughter turned one he told us get ready he was going to take us out for lunch we got ready waited..3 yrs went by before he stuck his head back into our happy lived, again I let him back into our lives not knowing that he was a full blown drug addict, I had been clean since he left. he was very cruel person even to our daughter and dog, boxing Day 2009 after he had collected his drugs and introduced me to the chick he was cheating on me with he decided to badly assault me in the car. you have no idea how many times I wanted to run the car into the barrier on his side, I was looking for police on motorbikes but nothing..... It's been 12 years now but we are still in hiding because he's threaten to kidnap me or my daughter and torture us for 3 years he spent in jail... Does anyone else have this kind of daily worry 
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Hi Buu79,

Thank you for posting here today. We are so sorry to hear that you have been through a number of extremely traumatic incidents throughout your life. No one deserves to be treated the way that you have been treated. It is incredibly brave to be reaching out here. 

We also want to make sure you have some other supports, too. There are specialist agencies available to support people who have experienced abuse, such as 1800 RESPECT (180 737 732). You are also welcome to call our Support Service at any time on 1300 22 4636 for information and referrals to specialist agencies in your area.  You can also talk to Blue Knot about this on 1300 657 380 (available between 9am-5pm). Their experienced counsellors work with people who have experienced complex trauma. 

If you are ever concerned for your immediate safety, please do not hesitate to call 000.

Thank you once again for sharing here. We are all here for you and hope this can be a safe and supportive space for you. Take good care of yourself, Buu79.

Kind regards
Sophie M