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Hi All,
I am very new to this. I'm 32 I have 4 beautiful children and a beautiful wife. I've had sciatic pain for the last 4 year. 2 operations and now extreme pain again after catching my 3 yr old daughter as she fell from the playground .
I was beaten by my stepdad when I was 9yrs old until 12yrs.( I told my mum and she kicked him out)
I was sexually assaulted when I was 7 by my neighbor which I didn't tell anyone until I was 24 due to feeling I was going to be judged.
I'm now after all this time, i'm losing at life, losing grip of my marriage and everyone else close to me. My anger is a problem. My pain is stopping me from sleeping properly. I don't know what to to. I have engaged in a psychologist, I've had one session so far.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Regards
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Hi Tinker86,
Welcome to the community here. You have quite a few issues to deal with from the sounds of it, just one or two of those issues would be enough to get people down.
All the best with the psychologist appointments, the more you have an understanding of how you want them to help you, the better the sessions will go.
After a psych appointment, I like to have a short walk, go and get a coffee or sit in the car and think for a moment before I have to head off and think about "life" again. It may be beneficial to write down your thoughts between appointments. If there is stuff there you want to discuss, you will be able to do that next session.
It can help to write out thoughts regardless to get them out of your head.
Sciatic pain I recognise. Do you see a physio at all? I found hydrotherapy helped me and gentle swimming. I too had an operation that was reasonably successful. Pain in itself can cause a lot of issues.
Recent attendance at a mini pain clinic educated me on mindfulness, visualisation and distractions to help control the pain levels. I'm not totally convinced yet and need to keep practising.
Anger is another issue I struggled with. Frustration doesn't help anger. Can you Google ways to help with anger management? Do you know what triggers your anger? Relating to that and finding ways to calm yourself before you become to upset would be beneficial.
I know it is not always easy to do any of the things I have mentioned. I'm offering some suggestions for what has helped me. Hope you find solutions! Welcome once again.
Cheers from Dools
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Hi Tinker,
Just to let you know, you don't have to answer my questions if you don't want to. They are there to help you have some other ideas and things to consider.
Cheers from Dools
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