Guilt about going home to another city while parent in hospital

[Dog girl]

• My father had a stroke two weeks ago and I have been going to hospital every day since, taking my mum along (a one hour drive wa h way) and advocating for my dad”s health and treatment. He’s doing better now and waiting to go to regab, but is quite weak after being in bed for 2 weeks. He’s 88 years old and I’ve been helping keep his spirits up and doing exercises with him to help keep some muscle tone. I don’t know when a rehab bed will become available for him, but I’m feeling exhausted and I’d like to go home for a few weeks. However, I’m feeling terribly guilty about it, and if he declines without such regular visits to boost his morale, I know the guilt is going to consume me. How do other people cope with the guilt of beng away and potentially having a good time with others when an aged parent is unwell or declining?

[Alikiwi]

Firstly he is very lucky to have your support, my kids couldn't care less. 88 years is impressive and I'm sure he appreciates the help and also that you yourself need rest. You can't help him if you burn out, so I certainly appreciate that you also have to look after yourself and I'm sure he does to.