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[Guest_91460414]

My mum passed away12/5/25. Mum was my best friend Lucky I have my daughter.   I now have a hole in my heart, making stupid decisions.  My anxiety level is huge as I'm dearly with my stepdad who isn't very nice.  Was so nasty to my mother when she was alive.  I don't like him. 

[TrueSeeker]

Hello

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can see how heart breaking it is for you. It's ok to go through grief as it's a lot to deal with and it does take time to adjust to new situation.

I can see that it's hard for you and it's triggering your anxiety. Have you tried relaxation techniques? They do help us to calm down and clear our head so it's easier to deal with our life. Just going for a walk and absorbing peaceful surroundings can help a lot.

I hope that things will get better for you, please take care and be nice to yourself as it's a lot to deal with

[therising]

The warmest of welcomes to you at such an incredibly challenging, stressful and painful time in your life. My heart goes out to you so much, so very much. ❤️

It was at the very end of May when my own mum passed away, also my best friend. To say it's hard is an understatement, hey. So many mixed emotions, so many highs and lows, so many desperate wishes for things to be easier. Just so much involved. I get the hole in your heart factor. It hurts so much at times. I can also relate to the people who don't make life any easier.

I think people can be grouped into 3 categories, when we're going through such enormously challenging times. There are those who raise us, those who leave us at the level we're vibing at and those who bring us down. When I hear what you say about your stepdad, I consider a family member of my own who's been incredibly stressful and quite depressing in some cases. While I've been led to feel moments of absolute rage, resentment, injustice and more towards them, what I eventually realised is...this person has actually managed to raise me in quite a significant way (when all the while I thought they were bringing me down). Up until my mum passed, I tolerated their behaviour. I tolerated them being degrading at times, dictating how I should be living my life, shutting me down while also judging me and the list goes on. At a time that calls for consideration, open mindedness (regarding what works for all) and a level of empathy that demands unselfishness, I'm done with their behaviour. I could tolerate their nature under just about any circumstance but this, the passing of my mum. After decades of knowing them, this is the line in the sand for me. In a way, it feels a little like the phoenix rising. Through moments of pure rage, it feels like the ridiculously tolerant and stressful people pleaser in me has finally been incinerated. The most heartbreaking and mind altering events hold the potential to develop us, disintegrating who we were and integrating us into something truly brilliant and powerful.

While tolerance points to an ability, which it is at times, intolerance can be quite an invigorating and powerful emotion. Intolerance requires us to set boundaries, which include those that reflect self love and self respect.❤️