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BeyondBlue Welcome to the Grief and Loss section
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Hey there,Welcome to the Grief and Loss section of the Beyond Blue Forums. This section is for all discussions relating to how grief and loss has affected you- providing a space for you to express your feelings, discuss difficult moments and annivers... View more

Hey there,Welcome to the Grief and Loss section of the Beyond Blue Forums. This section is for all discussions relating to how grief and loss has affected you- providing a space for you to express your feelings, discuss difficult moments and anniversaries, and honour the memories of your lost loved ones. Everyone’s experience of grief or loss is unique. You might experience all kinds of difficult or overwhelming emotions, and you might sometimes wonder if the sadness will ever end. This - and anything in between - is a normal reaction to loss. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but it can help to allow yourself to share your grief, and let others support you. Please be aware that discussions in this section of the Forums may include references to self-harm and suicide. Treat yourself gently as you read through this section. If need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Griefline – between 8am and 8pm (AEST), call 1300 845 745 to chat with a specially trained volunteer You are not alone in this, and we are here to support one another. Thank you for being here. Kind regards,Beyond Blue

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Anwar Grief loss of baby
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Hi I have a beautiful 14 month old baby girl and just lost my second baby girl due to kidney problems. I had a very difficult pregnancy and birth in both cases and my first baby has hip dyslasia and so has had procedures and hip spica cast and is sti... View more

Hi I have a beautiful 14 month old baby girl and just lost my second baby girl due to kidney problems. I had a very difficult pregnancy and birth in both cases and my first baby has hip dyslasia and so has had procedures and hip spica cast and is still requiring treatment. After losing my second baby there is a large possibility that I might not be able to carry a third child. I am physically and emotionally unwell and feel like this is affecting my relationships especially with my husband as well as the way I raise and take care of my daughter. I'm just reaching out to anyone who may have experienced something similar and what helped them cope and manage everyday life and accepting what happened. I have very supportive parents but at times I feel like everyone has their own lives to deal with. Thankyou for taking the time to read what I've experienced.

BeyondBlue Welcome to the Grief and Loss section
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Hey there,Welcome to the Grief and Loss section of the Beyond Blue Forums. This section is for all discussions relating to how grief and loss has affected you- providing a space for you to express your feelings, discuss difficult moments and annivers... View more

Hey there,Welcome to the Grief and Loss section of the Beyond Blue Forums. This section is for all discussions relating to how grief and loss has affected you- providing a space for you to express your feelings, discuss difficult moments and anniversaries, and honour the memories of your lost loved ones. Everyone’s experience of grief or loss is unique. You might experience all kinds of difficult or overwhelming emotions, and you might sometimes wonder if the sadness will ever end. This - and anything in between - is a normal reaction to loss. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but it can help to allow yourself to share your grief, and let others support you. Please be aware that discussions in this section of the Forums may include references to self-harm and suicide. Treat yourself gently as you read through this section. If need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Griefline – between 8am and 8pm (AEST), call 1300 845 745 to chat with a specially trained volunteer You are not alone in this, and we are here to support one another. Thank you for being here. Kind regards,Beyond Blue

BradyBird Alone and losing best friend to cancer
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My world is crumbling again.In January 2010 I lost my aunty to a car accident. 2 months later I lost my dad to an overdose of drugs. 3 years after that I lost my Nan to old age and then 2 years after that I lost my Pop to old age as well. (My Nan and... View more

My world is crumbling again.In January 2010 I lost my aunty to a car accident. 2 months later I lost my dad to an overdose of drugs. 3 years after that I lost my Nan to old age and then 2 years after that I lost my Pop to old age as well. (My Nan and Pop raised me). My 4 closest family members all gone within 5 years.Now only just last week I have found out my best friend of 8 years has been diagnosed with stage 4 incurable liver cancer and has been told he only has a life expectancy of 12-24 months or in some cases maybe 5 years, depending how his body reacts to the treatment.My world has been shattered and my heart broken into a million pieces once again. I don't want to lose him!! I don't want to say goodbye!!!I don't have any other real friends and the only family support I have is one sister who is just about to start a family of her own. So I feel so lost I'm 45, single, no partner or kids, I live alone and I'm so scared about the future and feel so lonely. I can feel myself spiralling into a deep dark depression again.I'm not even sure what I'm looking for on here, maybe a friend, maybe someone who can relate, someone to talk to, I dunno but I needed to reach out to see if it would help. Thank you for taking the time to read my story.Much love!!

Guest_13583523 Lost
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Hi,I've had a lot going on. Especially the past 4 years.I'd already had significant people pass away before 4 years ago. But approximately 4years ago I lost my best friend to a heart attack. Kylee was 50. She left on 18 December 2021. 9 months later,... View more

Hi,I've had a lot going on. Especially the past 4 years.I'd already had significant people pass away before 4 years ago. But approximately 4years ago I lost my best friend to a heart attack. Kylee was 50. She left on 18 December 2021. 9 months later, my Mum passed. My Dad passed in February this year.I am struggling. I would love to hear from anyone out there ‍🩹

OhmeOhmy I miss my Mum and Dad
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Both my parents have passed away and yesterday was the two year anniversary of my Dad passing. The grief still hits me so hard and raw at times. It rips through my whole body.I miss their unconditional love, I miss being known and understood so well,... View more

Both my parents have passed away and yesterday was the two year anniversary of my Dad passing. The grief still hits me so hard and raw at times. It rips through my whole body.I miss their unconditional love, I miss being known and understood so well, I miss having someone completely in my corner, I miss their faces lighting up when I walked in to visit them, I miss their compassion, I miss their loving investment in my life and wellbeing, I miss how safe they made me feel, I miss their voice, smiles and hugs. I'm so grateful to have had parents that gave me all these things to miss.

Bhel Grief losing my dad and mum
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Hi everyone!I lost my dad almost two months now !i miss him a lots !I feel up and down and sad most of the time it’s too hard living in other country with out family then you lost your both parents and far away from sisters and brothers too !

Hi everyone!I lost my dad almost two months now !i miss him a lots !I feel up and down and sad most of the time it’s too hard living in other country with out family then you lost your both parents and far away from sisters and brothers too !

Mummum88 Too much loss
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Hi Everyone I've had so much loss over the last 3 years, 3 family members (Brother-in-law, Sister-in-law and husband's grandmother) and most recently (Yesterday) a work colleague, and I'm struggling. I get stressed or anxious, my heartrate is risen a... View more

Hi Everyone I've had so much loss over the last 3 years, 3 family members (Brother-in-law, Sister-in-law and husband's grandmother) and most recently (Yesterday) a work colleague, and I'm struggling. I get stressed or anxious, my heartrate is risen and i get stiff and i am all over the place today at work - we are a small office and we all still had to come in. I just don't know what to do, how to cope.Home i seem to relax, i have my husband and toddler (light of my life) and more distractions i guess but work and when im trying to go to sleep are my biggest problems.I'm so sad.

RaspberryMuffin Its sad
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Just today my mom told me that tomorrow we might have to put my favourite pet white silky chicken down her name is (Vanilla Lawrence Byles) she has a big bulge on her foot and either its an infection or a tumor idk how to spell it but today she tripp... View more

Just today my mom told me that tomorrow we might have to put my favourite pet white silky chicken down her name is (Vanilla Lawrence Byles) she has a big bulge on her foot and either its an infection or a tumor idk how to spell it but today she tripped and she cant even carry her own weight even though shehad like a 2 and a half weeks off eating we don’t know why she wasn’t eating but i think it is the end of the road for her now. Can anyone relate But really sad time for a 13 year old who raised her all by himself and gave her pats every day.R.I.P

Guest_32805485 Lost without beloved pet of 20 yrs
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I recently quite suddenly and unexpectedly lost my beloved pet of 20 yrs. It was quite traumatic, trying to save him. I don't know how to exist without him. He is.......was.....my best friend. I don't know that I want to know how to exist without him... View more

I recently quite suddenly and unexpectedly lost my beloved pet of 20 yrs. It was quite traumatic, trying to save him. I don't know how to exist without him. He is.......was.....my best friend. I don't know that I want to know how to exist without him. I either cry or feel numb, like nothing matters anymore. I feel guilty for not saving him, not that he could be. Like it's my fault. How do I stop the pain? My heart is broken and I know it will never again feel whole, not without him. He got me through some of the worst days of my life. And I don't know how to survive without him. He was what kept me going, my strength. He tried to stay....he fought..... He has a brother who I now can't bear to be around.....I haven't seen his brother since he passed a few weeks ago. The thought of leaving the house ever again makes me feel nauseous and my chest feel tight and funny. I haven't told anyone. I don't know how to. It's like....once I do.... There's no turning back and he's really gone forever. I don't want to talk to my friends. Only the two people I live with (husband and dad) and one friend. My dog hates me. I don't blame him. I hate me for not being able to save him, for not being 15 minutes earlier and he wouldn't have been right there for it to happen.

Oscar Loss of grandchildren (through relocation)
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I have been (surrogate) grandmother to a friend's two sons (aged 3 and 2) and have seen them at least 3 times a week since they were born and they have been the highlight of my life. I am 83. Their parents have now decided to relocate from Perth to M... View more

I have been (surrogate) grandmother to a friend's two sons (aged 3 and 2) and have seen them at least 3 times a week since they were born and they have been the highlight of my life. I am 83. Their parents have now decided to relocate from Perth to Melbourne (for housing and work reasons) so I will no longer see them. I am heartbroken and cannot stop crying.

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