Narcissistic Father Dies

[Tam74]

So my narcissistic father died .. do I go see the body at the state mortuary for some closure or not .. his death was not unexpected as he was unwell but decided to help himself along with drugs alcohol  .. I felt awful and shocked and saddened it ended this way I wanted to see him but next day I was angry he was a bitter twisters person now I am just sad and tired but do I go see him for some closure , will it give me closure ? I am very conflicted as I did love him , but I think I hated him also .. I am being treated for depression, and ptsd ..any advice or has anyone had to deal with a similar situation cheers Tam

[Handrail]

I think it is most important you spent some time to see his body for the following reasons. I said you loved him but also hated him, I can understand that. If you see him at peace, you will remember him best as your Father rather than remember him in anger. You must remember him in 'love', not 'hatred'. If you decide not to see him, you might carry a regret for the rest of your life.

I requested a viewing of my wife's body and believed it was the best thing I did. It will help you with the grieving process. Yes, there is such a thing as 'good grief'.