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2024

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January 10th I had to leave my dad for one day/night. To go to my brother in-laws funeral and he suffered from bad depression. I was his full time carer. The next day when I got home with my Partner we found my dad had ended his life. That really messed me up pretty bad.. My family were hurting so much. June 30th my Mum had a stroke and I had to go to Sydney so they could switch off her life support because she was brain-dead. I was so grateful I could be there for my mum. I'm medicated for the pain and Trauma I suffer from bad panic attacks now. I've drank alot of alcohol this year to numb me.. I've been accused from my brother of contributing to my dad's passing and also been accused from sister for my mum. But I'm the one who was always there. I paid for both there Cremations. It's been one tough year.. Just this Sunday thats been my Nan passed away from a Brain tumour and a Broken 💔 after what her son did... Just been a shattering year..
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tranzcrybe
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You have endured an awful year losing parents, grandparent, and in-law in close succession - not something to process without much soul searching for answers which just won't be there.
It's sad to hear of siblings' accusations - possibly out of frustration as they try to grapple with similar anguish.
At times like these, family really needs to come together for one another in solidarity, putting aside speculations and pointing fingers. In the grand scheme of things it serves no useful purpose to apportion blame.


While a little sordid, you can contact executors of any Wills to claim funeral expenses from the estate or insurance policies.


Find some solace at least in knowing they are at peace and you did everything within your capacity to support them. Set you sights now on picking up the pieces and rebuilding your lives in a quest for new and more positive experiences to come.

Thank you for your kind words. My Parents had Nothing they were both on the Disability pension. Dad was a big drinker and gambler. Mum was a Weed Smoker and lived in housing commission. I'm the oldest son so I was in-charge of getting everything sorted out with debt collectors and death certificates.. I know my parents would be proud of me..