Why does everyone annoy me

[Ryleigh_19]

Feel like I can never be honest with anyone, I don’t know how to talk with normal people and wish I could, so carefree but yet they feel so ignorant. Depressions been getting bad, first month without seeing my mates and it’s not bad exactly but I know I’m not gonna get better I don’t wanna be lonely but all my mates do is drugs and they feel so stupid.

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

I'm 64yo. My daughter is 31yo an ex teacher. When at uni she told me she didn't fit in and almost everyone was using drugs or abusing alcohol. I advised her to strongly resist the temptation to be accepted if she chose to do such activities.

She resisted and made friends with two adorable ladies that eventually were in her wedding party. She thanked me and said "I stayed true to myself" that's a good saying.
Just because 90% of people around you do drugs doesn't mean the majority are wise. If you can't find enjoyment in life unless you abuse your body then people are missing something.

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TonyWK

[Guest_4643]

Hey Ryleigh19, welcome to the forums. I'll talk to you if you wish, I'm always here.

As Tony said, please stay safe and resist the drugs, alcohol, etc. I understand it may be difficult, but people who use them can often drag their friends into it, and you don't need people like that in your life, and people who don't understand you. I mean this in a polite, caring way, not a controlling way.

[therising]

Hi Ryleigh 19

I hear your frustration and I feel so deeply for you as you try your best to navigate your way through what is becoming a highly questionable time in your life. Definitely tough when we hit a questionable time, as answers and direction can tend to elude us at times.

Tony hit on a very significant factor - being true to our self, remaining natural (as much as possible). This can definitely be a struggle at times, especially when everyone else seems to be going with the same questionable flow. I'm Mum to a 15yo boy and 18yo gal and as I say to them - if you're relying on drugs and alcohol to hit that emotional sweet spot every time, you're doing something wrong. Sounds a little harsh but I say this from personal experience, having relied on alcohol during my late teens and the whole of my 20s. If I wanted to feel happier, I'd drink. If I wanted to feel more excited, more social, more relaxed, more confident, more adventurous etc etc, I'd drink. Alcohol was basically my 'go to' during my years in depression. Robbing our self of genuine natural emotion through the use of artificial stimulants can present a lot of problems in life, including not giving our self the ability to explore our emotions in productive ways. This includes exploring the so called 'negative' emotions as well.Typically, we're experiencing them for a reason.

Ryleigh, I can't help but wonder whether you're losing tolerance when it comes to the kind of life you don't want. To phrase it another way, do you not want a life which involves just vibing at some basic level? Do you want more? Do you want to be raised by people; have them raise your spirits and consciousness? Are you looking for some natural highs in life? Personally, I spent more than a decade in depression, wishing to come across the kind of people who would make all the difference. I finally found them, the kind of mind altering folk who led me to make sense of myself, my struggles and life in general.

I'm self proclaimed 'weird' and I love 'weird' people. Basically, weird is my normal. 'Normal' really is a matter of opinion and perspective. Once you discover who you naturally are and once you surround yourself with the kind of people who vibe on your level, who raise you and inspire you and encourage you to be yourself, you come to realise one of the greatest challenges in life is to find your self.

'Who am I?' is typically the first question asked at the beginning of such a monumental quest of self discovery.

🙂

[geoff]

Hello Ryleigh, and thanks for posting your comment.

If your mates do drugs and probably alcohol is also attached, certainly doesn't have to mean that you have to remain friends with them, simply because their first priority is to access their addiction and if they can't, then their personality is completey different.

Normal people, if there is such a reality, depends on who defines them as such, can change from day to day, depending on their agenda, but it affects their physical, mental and the relationships either for the good or for the bad, however, it's used to try and cope with anything the person feels as though 'they need to overcome many issues' or perhaps to celebrate, but after a while good can easily turn into being not so good, in other words bad.

My days of depression involved alcohol and in hindsight destroyed so many problems, now I haven't had a drink for over a year.

You are now at the cross road and any alcohol is not going to eradicate any depression and this is what you are aiming for, but your mates will probably have all the answers in the world when they've been using their addiction, but when sober or drug free they will only confuse you because they may not be able to repeat those answers or avoid answering them.

Can we ask if you have been able to talk with your doctor, then we can support you in every way possible.

Hope to har back from you.

Geoff.

[clown_of_mine]

Ryleigh , secretly everybody annoys me also.

I like your image it sorta reminds me how all of us exist in different realities and as we come together we merge our private reality to share a collective reality. This my space friend is where static occurs. See I sometime get annoyed when there is a large difference and it's up to me to fill it. I'm not gonna bog you down with it but it is a Normal Human experience and feeling. Maybe if your having time out from your mates you could tune in regularly here and find like minded people. I like the vent and go thread and the a-z of positive words. all that really matters is never give up.

[Not_Batman]

Hey Ryleigh.

when it comes to drug use i take a very hard line against it. I have seen first hand what it does to people. There are far more enjoyable things in this life you can do by experiencing life in its (and our) natural state.

this is not a smack on the wrist at all, just a perspective. I am glad that you have reached out on the subject.

i hope that you are able to find some comfort and pathway to reduce the depression you are feeling. Is seeing a doctor something that you could do?

Not_Batman

[clown_of_mine]

greetings space friend so I was watching someone I know well get annoyed today by other people. I was in the same scenario yet my mood was better and I just wasn't annoyed , even my companion's anger didn't disturb me, thankfully! But what I did observe was Projection I think we get more annoyed when we are in a negative frame. That's about as far as I have gotten on my quest to discovery why other people annoy me so much. Hope your hanging in there.