Hi Spoono
Sorry to hear that you didn't receive the responses you needed from your children. I can understand that you feel hurt and bewildered.
I think the answer to your question relies a lot on how old your children are and what's driving thier behaviour.
It's not uncommon for teens to be incredibly self-centred and self-absorbed. Hence the"I'm busy" response. This doesn't mean they don't love you or that they don't care. They may just find it difficult to understand how important the issue is to you because at their stage of life they're programmed to focus inward.
If they are older, I think it's reasonable to expect a bit better. You say "they obviously hate" hearing about depression but that may not necessarily be correct or tell the whole story. I could be wrong, as I obviously don't know them, but let's give them the benefit of the doubt.
I would talk to them to find out what's going on. You could explain how important their support is to your recovery and explain that your feelings were hurt.
You may find that they just didn't realise how important the occaision was to you. Or perhaps they don't know what to say or feel uncomfortable with the role reversal (I'm guessing you are normally supporting them). Or you might have just reached out on a bad day for them. I'm hoping that by raising the issue you can open the door to a meaningful, teaching conversation.
For what it's worth, this doesn't mean they don't care. They're just human, prone to making mistakes, like all the rest of us.
I am really happy that you had a good day.
Kind thoughts to you
