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Ugg its back again and this time i know the triggers yet unable to do a thing about it
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02-03-2016
08:40 AM
Well I have done the right thing again and it has bitten me hard this time! Been fighting this depression tooth and nail and I am still back sliding, and with this back sliding there is a HUGE amount of anger though I am not totally sure if the anger is aimed at me or at the cause of my depression sliding. You see a little over a year ago I got really stupid, my wife's nephew and his wife got kicked out of the place they were living, mostly for having to many animals and lieing about it, so after talking with the wife I told the kids (they are both 40..my age..but yet myself and wife call them the kids because that is how we see them as 4 yearolds on a good day!) that they could move in for a SHORT while, so they brought all their crap, and 4 dogs with them (so I now have 5 dogs on my properity and in my home) then we find out that the newphew's wife is end stage kidney failure, which does have some bareing on my situation, on top of them being kicked out of the place they were renting they owe the government a bit of money for defrauding the government and had a lot of other bills, which my wife and I payed most of their bills off..to date they have cost us over 45 grand easily, the nephew in law is an ungreatful SOB always whining and moaning about this or that and not even offering to do the dishes, heck they both have not even changed their bed sheets since they got here the wife and I (both of us being disabled) have to do it for them. And of course the nephew's wife has a lot of problems but yet she is not ungreatful, where as the nephew realy is ungreatful. Anyways as they do not pay ANY bills (other then one of their own storeage bills) I want to charge them rent 400 a month, that "rent" money is actually away to get them a bond saved up as the nephew spends all his money (he is on the dole and has a part time "job" on stupid little toys(expensive ones) and what not, but my wife is not wanting to listen to me on the rent issue as "they are family and no one understands the nephew like I do." Doesn't not help that my wife is going though menopause and can be a real nasty piece of work to ME, everyone else she is very happy and friendly but as soon as something goes wrong I am the one she snaps at. I love her and put up with this because its not her fault some days, yet all of this is boiling inside me the depression is sinking in deeper and worse off this ANGER has a hold of me and once again. Never do the right thing it will bite you in the end!!!
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03-03-2016
11:15 AM
When a person is on dialisys they tend not to lose weight they tend to GAIN weight its a really nasty side effect of the kidney dialysis, the stuff that is put into them tends to make them gain a lot of weight because of the high amount of sugar that is used. So the nephew's wife is in a nasty catch 22 currently. But she does sleep a lot and I can understand that she is dieing, really do not have TOO many issues with her its mostly with her husband that the issue lays in. Now as for my marrage other then the kids to be perfectly honest its not that rocky I have no desire to leave her or quite on her simply because of her moronic nephew and his wife, the menopause just pushes me at times and her refusing to see common sense is a bit of a problem at times as well but as for leaving we will weather this storm as we have all the other ons and come out on top. Its just well ugg you have read what is going on and it is effecting my depression and my anger and I try to keep it from the wife as she will sortof listen but then she starts jumping on my case when I bring up everything. Some times I think its just easier to shut up keep things bottled inside until it explodes, but last time I did that I did try to kill myself which is not a good thing!!! I am kind of stuck in my own personal hell, trapped in my own home, oh forgot to mention that, one of the inlaw's dogs is an escape artist and of course it's their favorite little ankle biter so someone has to be home to make sure he does not escape. So any time they want to go out or have appointments (which is a lot with the appointments) I am the one stuck home!
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