Hi Debzmite,
It sounds like your psychologist's comments have surprised you a bit.
I think it's important maybe to take a step back and consider that your psychologist is there as a guide. They have a lot of knowledge and a lot of experience with other people, but they don't have experience being you. So while they might be right, a lot of it comes down to how you interpret what they say, and what makes sense to you.
Do you agree with your psychologist's statements? If so, it'd be good to ask yourself whether you want to change and why.
At the same time, perhaps it's a good idea to ask yourself why you need to do these things. We can often make assumptions and rather than changing them because someone else said so, perhaps we need to convince ourselves first that we do want to change them and the reasons why.
James
