Trying my best.

[Indoril]

Hi everyone. This is the first time I have ever opened up about myself. I've tried to do so in the past with friends and family but it makes them uncomfortable.

I am really struggling with everything at the moment.

I have no career prospects, I've lost job after job. I cannot feel anything any more. Is this normal? I have been so tired and weary - I don't know what to do. I've never asked for help before.

[Pixie15]

Hi Indoril,

Welcome to the beyondblue forums. This is a good place to talk however if you feel you need more immediate help you can call the hotline number or try the online chat. It can take awhile for posts to be moderated. 

I do not believe there is a "normal" way to be but on the main page of the site here you will find a 1 minute checklist which you can complete if you want to find out how you are doing in comparison with that.

Depending on what your score is you might want to arrange to see a doctor. Also there are a lot of resources on the site which can give you more information about depression and anxiety. I think it is useful to have a look at these.

I think keeping a job is very difficult for a lot of people. Do you know why you keep losing jobs? 

cheers,

Grateful.

[hairyca]

Hi Indoril,

Your post regarding struggles mirror my thoughts, and I only joined Beyond Blue Forums yesterday, so I'm a newbie too. I've finally admitted that it's best for me to get some help sooner rather than later. It's not an easy thing to do, which is why it's taken me so long.

I will be popping on here quite regularly if you'd like to chat.

All the best,

e.

[hairyca]

p.s. opening up about it is the hardest step, well done! It may have taken a while, but you got there, doesn't matter how long it took you.

e.

[geoff]

dear Indoril, thanks for coming to the site and opening up to us.

All the people on this site have been or still going through some sort of depression, and this includes myself, so it's a safe and anonymous site where all of us talk to new people who have decided to post a comment wanting some help, as well support, advice or suggestions.

Please don't be worried about asking for help, there is no shame in doing this at all, because there seems to be a problem that you would like to talk about, so we are here to try and help you, so please I urge you to do get back to us.

If you are a bit frightened then there are many previous posts in all different areas you can look at. Geoff.

[White_Rose]

Hello Indoril

Welcome to Beyond Blue. So pleased you have been able to write in to this forum. It can be hard to talk about yourself, even on an anonymous site such as this, so many congratulations. I think Indoril is a Lord of the Rings name. Is the right? I'm a big fan. Have been for over 50 years (showing my age).

I echo Grateful's comments about looking at all the information on the site and completing the checklist. It will give you an idea of where you are. There is no such thing as normal. We are all unique. Having said that we all go through rough times in our lives and these can affect the way we are managing.

So you are feeling tired. It can be because you are unwell or the result of worrying about getting and keeping a job. Both are normal reactions. My point is it sounds as though a visit to your doctor could help sort out where you are. Whatever the outcome you will know what is happening.

Talking with family and friends is often a gamble. If you break your leg they will come out of the woodwork to help you. Talk about anxiety or depression or any similar feelings and they will disappear into the woodwork. It's not that they don't want to help but, as you said, embarrassed.

This is largely due to the lack of correct information about these things. And they don't know how to help so become a bit upset about it. So many misconceptions in this area which is why it's good to get the accurate information on BB.

So first step, visit your GP and take it from. We would love to hear how you go with this.

Regards

Mary

[Daisycqt]

Hi I can really empathise as I'm feeling that tired myself, I congratulate myself if I can get a load of washing done in a day. I also understand about family and friends as I have had a similar experience. Either they can't or won't understand and often they don't because they don't know how to help or are worried they may have to do something or change themselves to help you. Certainly in my own family it's a game of one upmanship about depression and feeling blue so I tend to keep it to myself. I don't know what the answer is, if you find it let me know LOL! But you we not alone, it's not an individual thing, we are all struggling one way or another so all I can suggest is just keep going, see a doctor, and continue to put your feelings out there on this site. It is helping me just to "talk" so I think it will help you too. Fingers crossed and supportive hug