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Support for partner

Guest_16278551
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My partner has had depression on and off for 10 years.

He is genuinely a loving caring funny guy but the last twelve/eighteen months has been rough.

He has in the last twelve months began anti-depression medication again which at first helped him but recently he is moody angry withdrawn and is saying things that are every concerning to me about how he dislikes himself.

He experienced a very rough childhood of parental domestic violence and alcohol abuse  to which he decided in the last couple of years to segregate himself from his parents and he has not spoken at all

to his parents in the last twelve months

He has also left  a toxic work environment for a new job but is being very hard on himself in learning his new job.

He was speaking to a fabulous GP but he has left our area and he has not found anyone else he “clicks with” to talk to.

He was speaking to a physiologist but he says it makes him feel worse so he stopped seeing him.

We are very blessed with 2 beautiful healthy children we have my parents who are very supportive we have a great friend group we are financially comfortable but he always finds something to stress about.

I am looking for advice on how I can help

my husband to bring back the funny caring person I know he is.

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Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear New Member~

I'd like to welcome you here to the Forum. If you were to look around you would find many who have been in similar circumstances and you may find how some have coped.

 

I'm saddened to read that your partner has been having a rough time for the the last year or year and a half. Very stressful, worrying and frustrating for you as there is no road-map on what to do.

 

Actually what has been done sounds very sensible, changing from an unpleasant job, going to the GP and psychologist. Plus taking antidepressants again. 

 

I"m glad he has found another job, though he cannot admit his virtues and strengths. In fact it would seem to carry though to a pessimistic attitude to life (sounds like me in the past).

 

Unfortunatly resuming a particular medication does not mean it will always act in the  same way as it did before, so others should be trialed until one is found that is effective without too many side effects - it took me quite a while to do this.

 

The realtionship between clinician and consumer is most important, can I suggest another GP be tried, in time one will click. If a psychologist makes him feel worse can I suggest he tells that person that this is the case and discuss how to make him feel better after a session. If that brings no joy once again time for a change.

 

As you can see from the above I have had to be in charge of my condition and find the right people to help me, and as everyone reacts differently I'd suggest he may need ot do the same.

 

As I mentioned before it is a very hard time for oyu to, can I ask what sort of support you have? Maybe a family or freind you can talk frankly with and know they care? They do not have to try to 'fix' things, just be there.

 

If you would like to come back and talk some more you would be welcomed

 

Croix