stress help

[viper57]

I am struggling with stress, depression, panics attacks  since moving to another state    thought it would be great now the bubble has burst    I dont want to be  where I am now living    everyday tasks are so hard   I am now talking pills to try and help   dont know how to cope till house is sold again   feel so alone

[Miss_Out]

This may seem a bit out there but try theta wave meditation..I joined a group for guided meditations but have also found some good ones to download from the app stores and even youtube.

It is really hard to establish yourself in a new area and it takes some time. Try to make contact with others through work or interest groups

Wishing you the best x

[viper57]

Thankyou     as I am new to letting out my feelings this is hard     where we are living there isnt much on offer kind of in the bush  shops are 2 hours away   wish I good run away having trouble eating   feel sick     still missing my mum who passed away 4 years today   my body feels like its been crushed    its nice to have someone to listen to me

[Miss_Out]

Aneversaries can be so hard, look after yourself, and the feeling will pass. Asking for help is the first step. The posters on these forums have made me feel less isolated with my depression today, I hope the same happens for you

[viper57]

Well today is another day  still feeling stressed     went to the mountains friday had massive panic attack I was so scared    without medication I would fall apart      eating is a big problem nothing tastes right    it gets dark early and foggy where we are that freaks me plus the mountains around us   dont know how I will handle this till we leave     I get frightened 

[AGrace]

Hi Viper,

Just a couple of questions, what prompted you to move to your current location in the first place? You mention until we sell again, is moving somewhere else on the cards? While you are living where you are do you think it would be possible to find some benefits in being there? (Getting in touch with nature, being away from the hustle and bustle of a big city.) are there any outlets for help with managing your fears and panic attacks there? (A GP or social worker etc) You use the term 'we', do the other people you live with know about your worries? Are they supportive? 

Sorry, thats a lot of questions, but we're here to listen, and if possible perhaps offer some support and suggestions.

AGrace

[viper57]

Hi we moved to our current house  thinking it would be a better life    the doctors here are basic    it was a  stupid idea after we visited  for 2 weeks last year  should have thought about the move more   call it a whim  there are no cities close by  my husband is helping me   no social workers  all up it was a  move on a dream   

[viper57]

I dont want to live in isolation   thought I could cope but no    the house will be sold    and leave the state we are in  my husband is doing everything to sort it out     so are the realestate people    we are old enough yo know better   I have had a lot of sadnes s    just lately with mum passing  my uncle   auntie  and cousin  who was 55    feel so silly now 

[AGrace]

There's never a need to feel silly. No matter how "old enough" we get life is all about making choices, some good, some not so good...but we learn from them all the same.

Im glad to hear you have support from your husband. Good luck with the sale and your relocation.

AGrace

[Neil_1]

Dear Viper

Sorry have only just got to this thread now – but looks like things are having a turn for the better, yeah?   And I’m totally with AGrace here – there is no need to feel silly at all.  We live, we make decisions, and for the most part, we learn from them.  Be they good decisions or perhaps, not so good ones.  But for you and your husband at the time, it WAS a good decision.   You weren’t to know how it would turn out.

But just consider for a minute – if you’d stayed where you were and continued there.  You may well be wondering for a long time, “Gee, what if we had moved to that location? It could have been brilliant, beautiful, it could have ……”    Do you see what I mean?    So I say “Good on you” for going there and “trying”.

And like AGrace, the support you are getting from your husband sounds awesome.

Kind regards

Neil