So not coping

[jodes76]

Everything has gone wrong this year. I really don't know what to do. So many things I want to get off my chest but at same time I'm too scared of the outcome. Feel like I'm falling further down than ever, not sure if I want to climb back up

[Jo3]

Hi Redhead

You need to let it all out, you need to speak with someone whether it's a good friend of yours or a GP.  

Don't be afraid to talk to someone.  I did after 30 years of memories of my childhood sexual abuse.  And believe me it was a terrible first year talking to my psych.  But now 3 yrs later I am able to talk to him about anything.  

If you can find the trust in someone - that is the first step.

Good luck and hope you keep writing here

Jo

[Teddas]

Redhead, I know exactly what you mean. The only good thing that has happened to me in the past 4 years is finding this site. 

It has been the greatest relief to let it out in here and get some honest feed back. If you are like me you probably thnk no one will understand because what you are going through is unique to you but there are people on here who have been through similar and will help if they can.

I have a great GP l talk to about everything and as Jo said professional help is important but if you want to just let it all out give it a go here

I have a long way to go l know but this site has really helped.

Good Luck and hope to see you post soon

[Neil_1]

Hi Redhead

Great comments back to you from Jo and Teddas, and great that you're able to come on here and start off with the above post.

Why don't you get a piece of paper and start a list of dot points of things that have caused you issues for this year (and beyond if you like).  They don't have to be in any particular order of preference, but this might help to put things down and see them all together.  Sometimes it can be a list of one thing or it can be a couple of pages long.

Then if you feel comfortable in posting them on here it might be a help.  While I guess none of us are professional (except perhaps for the moderators), as posted before, it's likely (perhaps) that some of us have experienced some of your dot points.  It's not to say that we have answers for them, but I feel sometimes it's a little comforting that you're able to share things that others have experienced (or are experiencing) as well.

Cheers

Neil

[geoff]

dear Redhead, can I say that once we are swamped with all the problems we have and feel that we can never believe that we will be able to either talk to someone who actually understands or can relate to how depressed we are, or that we have the capacity to unload everything because we are frightened, well it's possible, you just have to have some trust.

Although you are scared of the outcome, then this a reason why people don't want to talk about them, but to recover this has to happen and what you have to say will probably not shock any of us.

There have been an enormous amount of issues that are talked about on here, so I hope that you can have trust in us, because we have been to hell and back several times. Geoff.