Scared to get help

[Noodle_]

Hi. I'm new to this so not really sure what to say. My depression is slowly getting worse and it's affecting my relationship with my husband. I know I need to get help but I struggle at the thought of letting a gp know everything I'm feeling. I'm a very private person and I feel like the things I am feeling are silly and a waste of their time.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Noodle$,

Welcome to the forum, it's so great that you have joined this community. We are sorry to hear that your depression is slowly getting worse affecting your relationship with your husband. It can be very difficult being vulnerable with professionals as well as loved ones. Seeing your GP to get a mental health plan and seeing a counsellor/psychologist can be a great start to managing depression, which in turn could potentially assist your relationship with your husband. 

If you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals. 

You are not alone here and the community is here to support you.

[amberlite]

Hello N, thank you for dropping in and sharing some of the stuff that is bothering you. Sometimes we all have thoughts that are less than correct and sometimes we believe these wrong thoughts. That's all and in the believing we cause ourselves horrible feelings and the spiral can continue. Any GP would consider your situation privately and professionally, and you will get help! Don't discount your value you are important and I bet others value you. Bye and my best wishes.

[Megz10]

Hey, you've taken the first step and shared with us that you need help. The hardest part is asking for help. Ive been where you are right now. Unfortunately some drs are dismissive ("come back in 2 weeks if it doesn't get better" is a phrase one said to me). Things get easier after that first step. Taking openly becomes more normal. There are some fantastic drs, psychologists and other health professionals out there. Please don't sit and hope it will get better. Thinking of you during this tough time.

[geoff]

Hello Noodles, and a warm welcome to the site.

It's not easy telling anyone family, friends and/or doctors when you think you are suffering from depression, because you worry no one is going to believe you or push it aside as being something else, but within yourself, you know exactly how you have been feeling for a long time and can't possibly hide it any longer, you don't have the strength to pretend any more.

The longer you keep all of this without asking for help, the longer and the worse it may become the further the light at the end of the tunnel will become, that's what many of us have done and now realise that we should've asked for assistance, one way or another much earlier.

If you are able to write down how you are feeling and what your concerns are on some paper, then you can hand this over to your doctor, this will overcome any fear when they ask you 'how can I help you'.

Remember doctors are trained to deal with every aspect that affects the human and have helped so many people before and want to do the same with you.

When anybody is suffering from any type of depression we are very private, but at some point, we need to take a deep breath and ask for help and please don't be afraid.

Geoff.