Sad every weekend

mycatsbreathsmellslikecat · ‎19-02-2017

I don't know what is wrong with me. During the week I am fine, busy with work and try not to think about things in my life that make me unhappy. When I am at work I just get on with it and put a smile on my face and everyone comments on how up beat and happy I am. I am friendly with everyone but nobody wants me as a friend. On the weekends I feel really alone and stay home by myself a lot. I wake up on weekends and spend an hour or two crying in bed before I get up. I don't know why but once I feel like that it's so hard to change and most weekends I spend the whole weekend in my friday night pyjamas crying and feeling sad and hopeless.

gld · ‎19-02-2017

Hi mycatsbreathsmellslikecatfood,

Great to have you share your feelings with our community as i have found it an awesome place to do so. People here are non judgemental, very supportive and share which makes us realise we do not have to struggle through this by ourselves.

You write in your post, "I don't know what is wrong with me", I feel it is normal to experience feelings of this type when things are becoming overwhelming. It is vital you seek out some supports so you are able to experience some release from these strong feelings of hopelessness. Beyondblue are very supportive by making available people to talk to who are able to guide you towards supports that best suit you. In the past i have reached out and rang their helpline [1300224636 its 24/7]. Going to your GP could also be a great place to talk about the things that are concerning you at present.

I feel when we have a lot of time to just sit is not always healthy when we are experiencing some of the feelings you are currently going through as it could lead to over thinking. Are there things you enjoy doing that gives you pleasure or a feeling of achievement. Planning some of these throughout your weekend could ease some of these feelings. Challenging myself has helped me come out of my shell more and meet more people, like taking a course that interests me and going for a coffee with some of the people on the course. It is not easy to do but the more i have done it the easier it has become.

There are people out there looking for someone like yourself to have as a friend so keep on searching.

Gen [Hugs]

Boo1986 · ‎20-02-2017

Hi mycatsbreathsmellslikecatfood... can I please call you something else? Ralph Wiggum perhaps? I don't know why anyone wouldn't want to be your friend, you seem very likable to me, and I dearly love exchanging simpsons quotes 😃

My heart breaks for you... I will worry every weekend now knowing what you will be going through at that time. I spend most of my time at home on my own too. My saving grace is my dog. Through all my loneliest moments I have always had one very loyal friend by my side comforting me. I'm not sure about your living situation, but if it is an option for you, I recommend getting a dog. There is no better companionship for me. They love just to be by your side. I don't think I would be alive today if not for my pets.

It is difficult to make and keep friends if you are not the sort to go out to pubs or clubs and leaves us feeling isolated. Some other ideas I have tried and felt were helpful were starting some classes, I did belly dancing for a while and a body combat class (if you are interested in exercising) but any sort of thing that you are interested in really, joining a class just lets you find other people that like to do the same thing so you can all do it together and have some common ground to talk about. I also do some volunteer work with Conservation Volunteers Australia and find that lots of the people I meet are quite like me, shy but appreciate having someone to talk to. I find it really hard to approach people but it makes it easier if you have a task to do together so you have a conversation starter.

Although it doesn't really help with being alone, I do spend a lot of my weekends in my PJs binge watching shows, I know I am alone but it can feel like I am a part of something. I've been watching Community and The Office 😃 keeps me smiling. Find what makes you happy and give yourself the time to do these things. If you can find other people that share the same interests I'm sure they will love to be your friend.

Even try searching on facebook, there are some cool special interest groups that sometimes meet up. For example there is a Staffy owners group that organise dog walking/play dates so other people with staffys can all get together and their dogs can meet but the owners get to meet too and have someone to talk to.

Please keep in touch, I guess it's not much, but I hope to get to know you better and that you will be able to consider me a friend 😃