No one knows what to do with me

[llamalover23]

Basically what the title says. I’ve had severe depression And anxiety for about 4 years And have been trying to treat it for over 3.

absolutely nothing works. I continually ask for help and no one knows what to do with me.

i’ve gone to several gps. I’ve found one that I get on with but it seems like he doesn’t know what to do with me. I’ve been on 4 different medications and they never made any difference to my mood, some made it even worse. I’m not willing to try any SSRIs or SNRIs due to the risk of PSSD, and alternative antidepressants are outrageously expensive and haven’t worked for me.

I’ve been in and out of counselling for years. I saw a uni counsellor but after a few sessions they told me I was too severe and referred me to private psychs I couldn’t afford. I had 10 sessions with headspace this year through my MHCP and it was an absolute disaster. I never made any progress and I wasn’t given a discharge plan. I’ve tried contacting a few organisations but I’m never elligible or they aren’t taking on new clients. Seeing a psychologist might be useful but it’s not something I can afford to do privately.

i actively exercise and have made diet changes, I meditate and do mindfulness, I have to do lists, I keep busy, I leave the house and socialise with others. I don’t do drugs and I cut down alcohol. I’ve also tried just about every online CBT program there is and they never make any difference. I have no history of trauma and no ongoing environmental issues at all.

I’m constantly anxious and always miserable. I just want somebody to help me. There’s this narrative in society that if mentally ill people just ‘reached out’ they’d get better, and it’s a complete lie. I have reached out to people thousands of times, and no one knows how to help me. I only get told ‘good job’ for trying and that if ‘i keep it up things will improve’. It’s a lie and it never gets better even after several years.

i guess I’m just looking for some help and advice from you guys, because I’m certainly not getting any from the mental healthcare system.

[Sophie_M]

Dear llamalover23

We're so sorry to hear how discouraged you're feeling right now. It sounds like you are feeling somewhat let down by the healthcare system. It must be really upsetting to feel as though you can't afford the services that you think you need. We're glad you've spoken up about this as we're sure that a lot of our community members will relate to these feelings and hopefully, some of them will pop by to offer you words of wisdom and kindness. We hope that speaking to other people in similar situations will bring you some comfort. Please continue to reach out for support as you need it. 

[HamSolo01]

hi there llamalover23

nice to meet you. I am sorry to hear about your experiences but it can be very hard when we don't answers can't it?

I do hope that you are coping tonight. Please continue to seek help. That is important - no matter how hopeless it may seem. I know from experience that it's hard to find that hope when things around you seem hopeless.

Remember though that you deserve to find hope and get well. Keep on sharing what's going on for you here if you wish. I recommend it in fact

[llamalover23]

I’m not going to continue to seek help if no one ever knows how to help me. I’m tired of wasting my time, effort and energy.

[llamalover23]

A big part of the issue is that I’m always “reaching out” for support, but I never receive any. No one actually knows how to help me.

[mimiblue]

It's really good you're reaching out I haven't had the courage to reach out the only place I've talked to is on this website and that's about it. I've also been dealing with depression for 6 years and anxiety my whole life I understand you'r frustration I'm currently feeling that as well.

[llamalover23]

Has anyone got any actual advice for me though? Because it’s obvious that me just ‘reaching out’ for support hasn’t been working.

please, I really need actual solutions that work.

[therising]

Hi llamalover23

No one can say you haven't tried. On the contrary, it sounds like you have tried so incredibly hard to raise your self but with little satisfying result. When there is little that works inside the square, outside the square is sometimes worth considering. Unfortunately, there is so much outside the square, where to start looking can become a serious challenge.

While traditional therapies get a bum wrap, they can sometimes be worth considering. From personal experience, I've found certain traditional approaches deal more with the natural reasons for why we tick the way we do. To give you an idea of where I'm coming from, while modern medicine addresses the complexities of certain physical systems and chemistry involve that makes us function the way we do, traditional therapies tend to work more with the basic concept of energy in general and how it naturally behaves. A basic question would be 'Why does this person's body regularly go into a state of hyperactivity?' In other words, sudden high and sometimes erratic states of energy. One may ask if this person is highly sensitive to stressful thoughts, certain stimulants (such as caffeine), certain people, certain reminders/triggers from the past that keep resurfacing or do they naturally have a lot of hyperactive energy that they are yet to learn how to channel effectively, into certain focused beneficial activities? There could be quite a long list. A more unusual question could involve 'Does this person have a dominant sense they don't recognise them self having?' Such as, are they highly sensitive to sound or specific types of sounds or are they sensitive to receiving too much visual stimuli, to the point where it becomes overwhelming and stressful and they have to leave the environment in order to naturally calm down? Is it a combo of factors?

Strange to consider that, as far as history goes, quantum physics is in its early years when it comes to addressing the fact we are energy in the form of matter. Our cells vibrate at a subatomic level. The more we're stimulated (mentally and/or physically) the faster they vibrate. So, they can or we can suddenly be in a high vibe (vibrational) state of overall hyperactivity without really knowing how this state suddenly came to be. We feel this hyperactivity. Our body can be excited by happiness or stress; it's the mind that decides what we're observing.

More traditional therapies also address how to calm down the hyperactivity naturally.

🙂

[Ggrand]

Hello llamalover,

Medication only takes the edge of our depression and anxiety...It doesn’t unfortunately cure us...nor does talking to Psychologists, psychiatrists..The professionals imo and the meds do help us in one way....Then it’s up to us as individuals to seek out and find what helps to ease the negative thoughts, tears etc...

The only thing that I find works for me..and I know it does for so many..is to get out of our head by distracting those thoughts, onto something else that helps put our negative thoughts completely onto something that interests you like a hobby, Internet games, sewing, darts, music, drawing..there just a few that I occasionally pick up to do when I’m really down..

Trying to go to sleep with an over anxious and chatty mind is near impossible...I found some gentle sleep stories to listen to as I fall asleep...the stories are of peaceful places and so relaxing....They are on you tube...

I hope in some small way I have given you a few ideas that you might like to try ..

Do you have any pets or things that do interest you?..

Please talk here when ever you feel up to it.Wishing you a peaceful nights sleep...

My kindest and most caring thoughts dear llamalover..

Grandy.....

[llamalover23]

Distracting might work occasionally in the short term, but it doesn’t do anything to actually solve the problem at it’s source, or to stop the negative thoughts from happening in the first place.