Need support group on Gold Coast

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hello I am really lonely and my job is not forfilling anymore because we have nothing to do I sit for 7 hours a day infront of a computer just pretending to do work, while other people walk passed as they do not have a lot to do either. I need somewhere to share rent and live with very soon and this is stressing me out as well. I have tried Salvation Army, and other charities and they do not have any support groups either. It would give me hope to get out of bed each day knowing I am helping someone else thru the same feelings and encourage them just like your posts on fb and they would encourage me. please help warm regards from sam.

[Nurse_Jenn]

Hi sam gc,

Good to see you posting on the forums. Although we cannot give out recommendations to specific support groups or individual health professionals on the forum, it certainly sounds like a good plan.You have a lot on your plate coming up with an unfulfilling job and finding a new place to live. Both can be stressful but it sounds like you have a plan in mind on how you will be able to tackle some of your stress. Being connected to others with similar problems is a great start on your journey towards wellness. You might have to do some phoning around to find a support group that meets your needs in the Gold Coast.

You could try our friends at the Black Dog Institute who have a list of support groups in every state and territory. Just scroll to the bottom of the beyondblue National Helplines and Websites page and find the link to the Black Dog Institute. https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/national-help-lines-and-websites

If you don't find one on your own, another place to start could be engaging with a GP who may be able to suggest a local group or even a counsellor. In any case, please continue to reach out through the forum as you may find someone who will suggest a great group or support network.

Having someone to talk with about what you want in your work life might be helpful though I do realise that commencing a job search or considering a career change while not having a stable living situation is difficult. I wish you the best on your quest to find a great place to live.

Wishing you the best possible outcome,

Nurse Jenn

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thankyou for writing Nurse Jenn I have no idea what I am going to do regarding find a place to live because I have tried sharing and I feel so out of place and I have lived on my own and not been happy with that because it is lonely and scary I will end up drinking. I tried inviting people over but they are always busy. I really need to connect with people in my own city so we can help each other. please help me I am seeing my gp today about a mental health plan I have had one for 5 years. I just want to meet someone and share a day to day life with them, cook dinner together, go for walks, and talk to. I cant do it at work because no one understands my fears, they say I have to get over it and be grateful I am alive. I know I am getting more frigtened everyday. love from Sam.

[future_]

Today I feel that no one in my entire life to date needs me for anything. No one ever calls my phone to talk to me. I send text messages and no one ever texts back or invites me to anything until after I have mentioned it when I have contacted them and they say next time we will let you know and they don't. I have to contact anybody in my life because I feel so not needed I don't want to live each day anymore. It is an awful feeling and people say it's only a feeling so harness it into something better but how when it happens every day in every way. I am not needed at work I now know why i drink looking for answers in the bottom of the bottle. help me please

[Birdy77]

Dear Sam,

I can hear the fear and desperation in your post ... I am so sorry you are feeling so alone and unneeded. It is an awful feeling.

It is perfectly natural for you to want someone to cook for, walk with, enjoy their company. That true human connection that we crave.

Hey Sam, how did it go on Wednesday when you went to the Dr for a mental health plan? I hope you were helped and have some plans for some face to face support.

Hang in there Sam.

Wishing you peace tonight.

🌻birdy

[future_]

Oh Birdy, yes i am trying another councellor but I really need help everyday so to have someone special in person each day I could meet with and have coffee or have dinner with or just talk with each day. I am trying to stay positive each day but so hard when I am fee alone. from sam.

[Birdy77]

Dear Sam,

It's very hard, I know, to stay positive each day when you feel so alone.

Have you asked your counsellor for some suggestions about groups or anywhere you could go to meet like-minded people?

If the people in your life now are not engaging with you or including you in their plans, how would you feel about joining some activity-newsgroups to meet new people and keep busy away from the loneliness of home and the pull of the bottle?

Community centres or Neighbourhood Centres usually have things going on in the evenings. Would looking into something like that appeal to you?

I once started joining in with a group who did Tai chi and Qi-gong in a local park (free) when I was very lonely in a new city. It eventually led to invitations to coffee etc ...

What sorts of things do you enjoy doing Sam?

🌻birdy

[Birdy77]

Hello Sam,

I'm sorry, Auto-correct intruded on my post to you. I meant activity-based groups, not newsgroups, whatever they are.

🌻birdy

[future_]

Hello can someone please help me understand how to keep HOPE and if I can meet people on GC because I want to fix myself and be helpful to someone else's life. I need a place to start please understand. I feel people in the same situation help pull each other up and into better places in life. xoxo Looking for HOPE.

[Birdy77]

Hello again Sam,

I am just wondering if you've had a chance to try any of the suggestions Nurse Jenn posted to you for finding support groups in your area?

Or my ideas about the neighbourhood centre or community centre or activity based groups? Support groups for all sorts of issues often meet in neighbourhood centres, it would be worth checking.

There are often Community Mental Health clinics around that you could try as well. They may have support groups or at least be able to point you in the right direction.

Have you given any of those things a go?

It sounds like you really want to help yourself and to help others, so some of those ideas might be a good place to start.

🌻birdy