My story...well some!

MsPhoenix
Community Member
Hi all, my story is probably similar to some of you hear, but I need to tell it anyway, in a summarized version.I am in my late 40's and on marriage no3. I have 3 children of my own and 2 steps. The steps live with their dad and i and because of this my own children who range from 16 - 25 refuse to include me in their lives, my own parents or sibling don't want me in their lives either.I know that i need to focus on what is under my roof but because of my own family ostracizing me I can't get past the sadness and feeling of a loss of identity. I know that this sound melodramatic but you bring 3 kids in the world and now nothing to show for it, it's tough. My husband has been understanding to a point but is now considering leaving me too. Im on meds for my depression with the occasional benzodiazepines to get me thru bad days. I'm just reaching out here because i don't know where yo start.  Naturally there is soooo much more to my story but just someone who can 'take me under their wing' would be a fantastic start.I need to stop crying one day. 
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White_Rose
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Dear Ms Phoenix

I am pleased you have found your way to this forum and have been able to tell your story, even in its abbreviated form. Welcome to the Beyond Blue community.

I have to admit I am a little confused with your story. At first I read your post as saying your step children would have nothing to do with you, and while that would be sad, it fairly common. But then I reread your words and discover it is your children who are ignoring you. Do you know why and can you tell us? Surely it can't be just because they have step siblings in their lives. Do they feel you are favouring the steps to the disadvantage of themselves.

And do you know why your parents and siblings do not want to know you? This is very sad. Has your husband said why he wants to leave? Sorry to ask all the questions when I realise how hard it must be for you. I am wondering if it is all down to your depression.  Do you have any other illnesses?

About your depression. Since you are taking some medications it seems you are seeing a doctor. Are you also seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist? As your depression sounds severe it appears you need help close to home. BB people can support you on line but it is not as effective as face to face counselling.

So I will make this a short post and hope you will get back to us with more of your story. I am happy to continue communicating with you if this will help.

Regards
Mary

 

Chris_B
Community Manager (Retired)
Community Manager (Retired)
Hi MsPhoenix and White Rose, this thread is a double-up, so I've closed it. Please feel free to continue your conversation in the original thread here.