My mom blames me

[Kirika_M]

Hello, my mom and I fight a lot and lately they have been getting worse and worse. One of them is where she said that I'm the reason for her and my entire family to have sleepless nights and that it's my fault for making my parents argue. She said that everytime I was mentioned, my dad would want to end the conversation leading to another fight making they're relationship worse. She has also said that I am the most problematic child and the biggest disappointment in her life. She said she was lucky that she has 2 perfect children and says it's my fault for making her life so terrible and stressful. I don't know what to say, only that I'm really sad.

[hellohi]

Hi,

My situation at home relates to yours.

My parents always argue, they don't like each other. My mum and dad also blame me for not cleaning up and being a cause of their arguments at time. I try my best to help clean up with my parents, but they want everything perfect. We live in a house, not a hotel. My parents and I have never had a proper conversion, if I tell something important has happened in my life, they won't give me a response they would compare me to other people. My mum constantly tells me that I am the person that makes her life miserable and stressful with my dad. Whenever my grades aren't good, my parents remind me of how dependent I am on their money, as they send me to tuition.

I know its not a good feeling when everyone blames us when their expectations aren't met, even if we try hard. I have used Kids Helpline before, but I didn't find it helpful, but maybe the counsellors there may help you, we are all different. Also, Headspace is good too. What are your hobbies and favourite school subjects? That can help you take your mind off your parent's arguments. I have recently started writing my thoughts in a diary, do you think that will work for you?

Hope to chat again. 🙂