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Moving to Qld again

Lward
Community Member

I moved to Qld in 2023 with my 16 year old daughter who has a complex disability.

Apart from being near my best friends it didn’t work out and I only lasted a year, mainly being that my ex didn’t join me there which eventuated to us breaking up and I missed my parents and sister, so I moved back to NSW. 6 months in and I just want to move back to Brisbane again. my daughter had better options of care and support there, the job I’m in currently is highly stressful and I just cannot find my happiness. I don’t want to keep doing these things though for me to just give up again, I don’t want to put my daughter through that. 
I just don’t know what to do 😞 

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Sophie_M
Moderator
Moderator
Hello Lward, 

Thank you so much for sharing your story with our community. You really are experiencing so many challenges, and naturally, these can build up in the mind and body over time. It is very common to feel confused when we have conflicting feelings or needs about a choice. It seems like NSW provides a sense of connection with your family being there, but QLD offers more opportunity and choice for your daughter (and perhaps yourself too?). It really is a tough decision, so no wonder you are feeling confused about it all. We can see there is a lot to consider with your daughter's health being such an important factor; you sound like a very loving and caring parent for her.

In terms of discovering what the next best step is for yourself, here are some things that might be helpful for you to consider/journal about:
 
"When do I feel the happiest?" (This can be as simple as getting your morning coffee. When things are stressful, small joys can go a long way!)
"What would I do if I knew everything would work out?"
"What thoughts or feelings are stopping me from following through with this?"
"What support do I need in order to make this change?"

Let us know what you discover from answering these questions if you decide to explore them – we would love to hear what you find!

We hope our community can provide some additional support, but until then, we are here 24/7 should you wish to chat with one of our counsellors 1-1: 
Talk to a counsellor - Beyond Blue - Beyond Blue

Good luck and have a lovely weekend!

Warm regards, 
Sophie M.