Mid life issues

[Ruby__2]

Feeling very confused . Last child moving out going through menopause and husband and I have some health issues . I went to my doctor who said it sounds like I have anxiety /depression put me on anti depressants and I see a psychologist next week . I have been a stay at home mum and haven't done paid employment for over 15 years . I am pleased that I have raised 2 beautiful children who can stand on their own 2 feet (both teachers )but I feel at a loss and worry about the future . My hubby has worked 2 jobs so I could stay home . He was assaulted at work and the ensuing worker's comp issues caused us to sell our home . We are renting and I want to help by working but feel washed up at 54.Any suggestions ? I suddenly don't feel in control of anything . I get tired of putting on a brave face and so I have retreated a bit . My husband is supportive and I am so thankful for that but feel he will tire of it . People tend to dismiss my sadness with "you'll be right "but I don't know how to be anything but a mum . I don't feel confident . Sorry to be rambling but what I want to know is how do I move forward . I feel like I have boxed myself in and others just see me as mum . My husband got us a new dog last year after our old boy died ( 19 ) but I think I am still grieving for him.Any ideas would be appreciated . I think I have been depressed for a long time , so long it feels normal .

[Shellybeach]

Hi Ruby 2

I am new to this forum and this is my first post. I am sorry you are going through this rough time, your situation you discuss is so similar a d I totally identify apart from my being single. Menapause is tough and like you mention I too have identified as a mum for the past 18 years and now my only son is joining the army. My mum has just passed I have no sisters and feel this unbelievable sadness i can't shake . Also like you I am seeing a psychologist next week, I tried medication and had horrible side effects and looking for a more natural approach. This depression has thrown me I am not working or socialising. I am a social worker and trying to practice mindfulness meditation i just feel so up and down. I just wanted to connect with you to let you know I relate and hopefully others may offer their similar treatments.

[Ruby__2]

Hi Shelleybeach Thanks for posting . I am sorry things are rough for you too .I have found BB really useful . There are some very insightful people who have some great advice and support to offer .I wish I had more to offer you .