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Mazzy
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I have broken my foot in 3 places and didn't go to hospital I walked around on it for 12 days thinking it was a sprain It was very very painful my daughter saw it and insisted I go to the Dr The foot was a mess I have a moon boot crutches knee scooter as it is zero weight bearing I cannot believe how much this has affected me I'm so miserable and feel like a burden to everyone I can't drive difficult to walk around only using one leg Has anyone been completely miserable after breaking there foot I'm so sad and miserable 😣
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Dear New Member~
I'd like to welcome you here to the Forum and I'm very glad you ended up getting the correct treatment. No doubt it is awkward, painful and exceedinly limiting at the moment.
If you have been as active 'fix it' sort of person you are now faced with a complete change and sure, to start with you may feel a burden.
It does not have to stay that way, it simply means you have temporarily a different role to play in the family from the one you had before. Can I suggest you look for tasks that you can do stationary or sitting down. Helping wiht the cooking springs to mind, as does doing the family accounts.
I know you have a (sensible) daughter, do you have kids that need hep with studies, or simply your time and attention.
Changing the mood of the home to a lighter one can be satisfying, how you do that is something you would know better than me, maybe being cheerful, even telling a joke, it all helps.
I've only mentioned a couple of things, I'm sure you would be able to come up with better ones.
Croix
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The warmest of welcomes to you at such a trying time in your life.
Croix mentions a number of key factors including '...temporarily a different role to play in the family from the one you had before'. I've found when I appoint myself a particular role, it goes toward establishing my identity. If I disappoint myself from that role or I'm involuntarily disappointed from it, due to circumstances beyond my control, what I'm facing is a dis-appointment. How I feel the dis-appointment and manage the identity shift is a whole other story. Sometimes the questions become 'What new role or new roles am I going to give myself or appoint myself, under the circumstances? How am I going to choose to identify or re-identify myself?'. Croix mentions a number of possible new roles/identities such as cook, accountant, tutor and even comedian (with the occasional joke telling).
I think sometimes our circumstances can be about how other people develop too. If you've always appointed yourself the role of 'Primary carer to everyone in the family', now is a chance for family members to develop 'the carer' in themselves. As you take on the role of 'teacher', teaching them how to care for someone who's incapacitated, they'll develop skills and abilities when it comes to caring for another. It can be about helping people emotionally develop too. As they become more conscious about how compassion feels, how empathy feels, how a sense of helplessness may feel (when another experiences this), they develop the ability to sense different or new emotions within themself and others. Despite what others may say about sensitivity, I've found it's definitely a skill or an ability well worth developing and mastering. 🙂