Hi welcome
So you are separated, living under the same roof and you both have children. You also have clear symptoms of withdrawal from friends and even eating.
Firstly, when I separated from my first wife we had two girls 7 and 4yo. Leading up to that separation I attempted to take my own life. And such depths of despair is not a good place to be. My last words to myself was- "better to be a part time dad than no dad at all". And so I left, a good but hard action.
A couple of weeks later, so concerned with my kids I rang their school principle and asked her how they were coping. "they are well Tony, kids are resilient you know, more that what you realise". I began to relax and just be the best part time dad I could be. My eldest came to live with me at 12yo. It isn't the end of the world.
So this arrangement of "under the same roof" will stop you getting on with your life. It will continue to make you and your wife miserable and that will not be good for the children. Yes, separation is devastating for all concerned but in a few weeks things will settle and no one will take the place of their real dad. My kids had 3 step dads after me- mostly good guys, but none as wonderful in my kids eyes.
So, I would also visit your GP and discuss things with him/her. Be brave and open.
The source of the problem needs to be tackled and that is your living arrangements IMO.
You should be praised for writing in.
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TonyWK
