Hi,
I need some advice on an issue my husband and I are facing around intimacy. My husband is a wonderful man and looks after me very well and I inturn to him, but after a injury to his member during sex he has not been able to do what he normally does....sorry to get personal.
We are on the waiting list to see a urologist, which is great but the issue we have is that he said that from the moment he hurt himself, something switched off in his mind and he does not want to do anything intimate at all, not even touch, which is killing me as before this, we were so affectionate to each other. He does not want to talk about it and I have offered to help him get help to talk to someone who, can help him deal with the feeling and issues he is feeling within himself, but it's like he is a brick wall. With anything else he does not have this issue, he is proactive about his health, but this issue is like he has totally shut down. It is affecting our marriage and how I am feeling, but I am trying really hard not to make it all about how I am feeling or affected. I Really want to be a support and help for him so he can feel like a man again, as he puts it in his own words, and to get some sort of a intimacy back, even if it is only playing around for now, until he can see urologist and get some solution for his issue.
I Really want him to talk to someone, but also know that it is his choice, but his choice to do nothing is now really affect us as a couple. PLEASE help me, if any one has some tips, or if you have been through similar thing and can give me some advice or resources to help me I would love to hear them.
Thank you for allowing me to talk about this.
