Im an an adult, im nearly 41.
i lived with my parents most of my life due to social phobia and agoraphobia and anxiety.
i never really got support when i was a young adult for those things and in fact had traumas that made them worse.
But despite those things, Ive still been independent even living with my parents.
My parents are in their early 70s and ive been caring for my mum for a long time, shes able but was born with limited hearing and cant drive and ive always been the one to help her things.
My dad I have alot of passive aggressiveness towards him. He is dominating in the family and always has ultimatums and hypocrisy.
At the start of this year his car burst in flames and was written off. It was a new car he didnt insure. Since then, financially unable to get a car hes been relying on me and my car to take him to his bowls and everywhere else.
I also take mum everywhere too.
I got burnt out of constant driving everyone with little of my own time and energy to basically have my own life. Ive been depressed and feelings of hopelessness and exhaustion.
And that was b4 dad pronounced he was selling where we live as he wants to invest money and that we have 3 months to find a new place so he can invest in the shares he wants. So that happened and its been like hell.
But prior to all that, a year earlier I had no car but my dad had a car. Basically, I didnt go anywhere at all for a year pretty much because Dad would complain about petrol and he was always off at bowls. I had to use his car only once a week to take mum out shopping and her social outing and that was when i shopped and that was it.
I saved so hard a whole year for my car ( im on dsp). I pay bills at home, so i was just living bare bones until i finally got my dream car id been saving for.
And fast forward now, and its the family car now. All the milage and petrol all paid by me and used 90 percent by my parents.
And now dad says when we move, hes not going to get a car, hes going to get an electric bike instead 🙄. Hes in his early 70s and thinks he can drive to bowls and back.
But again, that means my car will be the family car and everytime i want to go in my car i get my parents sitting in there and i have to take them places. I literally dont get a chance to be independent even when i have done all I can. And no, moving from them is not an option for so many reasons.
i feel completely stepped on by my parents.
