i've nearly made it, but tell me what i should do

[t..c]

I'm 16, finally entering my final year of school after probably one of the worst years of my life. Me and my ex-boyfriend (i'll call him S) just mutually broke up and we were together for 15 months. There is another guy but that is not the reason me and S broke up, he never really put in enough effort to see me and he was always making excuses and it made me feel like absolute crap (this has been going on for like at least 6-8 month), but i mean he didn't want to see me or risk it cos of covid and i didn't see him for 4 months minimum, he hates calling and Face-timing so i barely talked to him and it put me in a very bad mental state and i think the only reason i stayed with him was because during lockdown i needed someone. Now when we broke up i also i needed to focus more on myself because next year i can't even describe how busy I will be.

I have been working on myself lately, I've been going to the gym and trying to eat better but i was told last Thursday by a dietician that i have an eating disorder, because for example today i've had basically nothing and i just had dinner but i didn't want to eat it and now i feel sick from eating it. There are just some days i have the biggest mood swings.

This other guy (i'll call him M), i met him at the start of the year in my maths class, he is the nicest guy i've met and he has been so helpful and we haven't stopped talking for the last like month. We went and saw a movie last week and he bought me a ring and i haven't taken it off. I was and still am so happy. We aren't together because me and S broke up not too long ago but man i really don't know what i am feeling.

S would also tell me if i told him i have depression and/or anxiety that it is just a phase and it'll pass, I WAS LITERALLY HOSPITALISED, and M picks up the moment i feel slightly bad and he makes sure i'm okay.

My questions are; Am i falling in love too quickly? I have already been diagnosed with depression/anxiety but is it getting worse? Or is this just my anxiety overthinking everything?

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T.c
Well done for starting this thread and thanks for sharing your story.

You have been 15 mths with S and now you have met M. You are also trying to cope with anxiety and depression. Is it possible to be friends with M while you take time to be kind to yourself and work out how to cope with your mood swings.

If you can take time to work out what you want and need, I think you will be able to see things more clearly and work out what you want.
Take care

[Truc]

Hi t..c

I am in a healthy relationship now, so I think somehow I can advise you a bit, you can take it or not depending on your situation, so there is no judgment here okay ?

First, about your relationship, in my view, you are not wrong at any ways when you have a feeling for someone after you just broke up someone, that just means you dont like your ex boyfriend anymore, and you absolutely did not cheat on him, then that is normal, I think that is not quick to have a feeling for someone like that, I think you heard a saying that love at the first sight, does it exist ? It does in my opinion in my friends case and other cases I slightly recalled, then you are not actually as quick as comparing other cases.

S and You may be not meant to be, so I think why should we force it right ? So you just worried other people think, is that normal, it is very normal for everyone especially for teenagers because you may have less experience in life maybe correct me if im wrong this part. You did overthink a bit but in my view even mysefl overthink also, however if I know i am overthinking, I go talk and chit chat with someone and keep myself busy not to let those ruminant thoughts occupied me. Hope it is helpful for you

[t..c]

hey, i know this is a while later but M actually started becoming obsessed with me and eventually started making my mental health worse and when i told him i did not want a relationship he started stalking me.

i hate men