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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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honeybee3 I think I’m mentally ill but I also think I’m being dramatic
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I’m 21 years old and I’ve been a chronic procrastinator since I was in middle school. I can’t keep my room tidy for the life of me, I leave literally everything (even things I want to do) to the last minute, and it’s beginning to have an impact on th... View more

I’m 21 years old and I’ve been a chronic procrastinator since I was in middle school. I can’t keep my room tidy for the life of me, I leave literally everything (even things I want to do) to the last minute, and it’s beginning to have an impact on those around me. I don’t help around the house as much as I should, and my room is a mess. I hate it, seeing my room makes me miserable, and my parents are getting increasingly frustrated about it. I often sit and scroll through my phone / watch videos / play games that I’m completely bored with for hours but I can never bring myself to get up and do something else. Recently I’ve been desperately comparing myself to people with ADHD, anxiety, and depression, trying to find similarities that could explain why I’m like this - but I’m worried that I’m just trying to find an excuse, and that I don’t actually have any mental health problems. My parents think I’m just lazy and I think they might be right, but I can’t talk to them about my mental health or they’ll think I’m just making excuses. I honestly don’t know what the answer is, whether I’m just looking for excuses or if I actually need help. I feel like at home I can’t do anything but it doesn’t affect my work life - I still keep busy at work and do things there, but I can’t for the life of me get anything done when I’m at home or at uni. Does this sound like I’m just lazy / out of the habit of being productive, or may there be more to it? Who do I talk to to get help for this?

ChristianSa HELP! Feeling depressed after wife's family moved in with us - 1 year later, can't handle it anymore.
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My wife’s family (mother and younger sister) decided to follow us and move interstate and they wanted to crash with myself, my wife and our two children. They were originally meant to stay with us until they could find work and a house of their own. ... View more

My wife’s family (mother and younger sister) decided to follow us and move interstate and they wanted to crash with myself, my wife and our two children. They were originally meant to stay with us until they could find work and a house of their own. That was just over a year ago. At first, it was nice having them to help with kids, but their habits and toxic dependence has eventually outweighed everything. My MIL has no motivation to find work, she doesn’t have a car license (expired) and we just discovered she lost her birth certificate so she can’t get her own house or do anything for herself. This just makes the light at the end of the tunnel fade to nothing. I can’t see any way that she will get it together and start acting more responsibly. Now we have had to move to a bigger house, my wife decided it was a good idea to INCLUDE them on the lease agreement for our house which I don’t know how the real estate let her without a birth certificate. Now I’m stuck with them living with us for the unforeseeable future. They live messy, the sister is law has no respect or boundaries for myself and the kids. She leaves her mess everywhere. I have talked to her over and over but no change in behaviour. She invites friends around with out asking or letting anyone know. Just last night she had a friend over and they were making heaps of noise which woke me as I was just falling asleep. She also rouses on the kids and is constantly having a go at them for small nit picky things. Every time I mention something or talk to my wife I get played off like I’m acting way too anal about things (different up bringings). I feel like I can’t say things and that I have no support in this house. Compounding this, I have just had a major hip operation and getting another knee surgery in a months time, I can’t do anything I love, I’m stuck at home with them all time, I can’t get away for the day and I can’t work at the moment. I’m always in pain and can’t/having lots of trouble sleeping. I have to leave the house for my surgeries and check-ups and everything I come back to the house it’s in a mess. I don’t know what to do? I’m feeling soo depressed and I can’t see things getting any better. I can feel my anger levels rising. So much in fact that I left the house last night and just sat in the car by myself for two hours before coming home. It’s been a year and I’m nearly at breaking point. Please help!

Ejuliet I don’t know what to do
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I’m ready to go, I don’t want to be here anymore. I’m so sad, and so numb everyday. The only good thing about it is my sister. I’m so tired, and I’m so alone

I’m ready to go, I don’t want to be here anymore. I’m so sad, and so numb everyday. The only good thing about it is my sister. I’m so tired, and I’m so alone

colours_stars I’m not sure what to do
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Hello, I am a younger teen who has been struggling with mental issues such as anxiety and depression for years. I’ve recently been diagnosed with a brain AVM but it’s low risk and I’m not to worried but it is causing some people to freak out a bit an... View more

Hello, I am a younger teen who has been struggling with mental issues such as anxiety and depression for years. I’ve recently been diagnosed with a brain AVM but it’s low risk and I’m not to worried but it is causing some people to freak out a bit and I’m not sure how to handle this. I see a phycologist but it doesn’t really help. When the doctor asks me questions about my depression, I lie a lot and say I’m fine and ok for now, but my leg and wrist always shakes, so they know I’m lying. I have severe depression and the GP wishes to send me to a pycaratrist and wants to also put me on medications. I don’t want to go on meds because last time they gave me anti seizure meds for my severe minegrains caused by the AVM and it made me even more tired and I almost killed myself again. This time if I have to go on it will be more than one medication and I fear the further side effects. But I have one reason which I’m not really open with, I am filled with an what I consider irrational fear for myself. I am scared of gaining weight, to the extent that I have periods and days where I will not eat. And when I do eat I fell guilty. I’ve vomited out my food purposely sometimes, but it leaves popped blood vessels in my face and my parents have started to notice so I try not to do this anymore. It hurts when my brother (he has autism) I know he finds it harder to control his self, calls me fat or other discriminatory names. I’ve tried telling my parents about what he does but they just say that I’m being silly and that I’m skinny. And I am I’m skinny, I always have been, I’m somewhat underweight but not dangerously, but for some reason I can’t seem to get the thought out of my head. I look at myself in the mirror and my mind almost distorts the image in my head. I don’t know what happening. I am just terrified of gaining weight I don’t know why. I don’t know what this all means. I apologise if this post was long and an inconvenience.

floydoss how to deal with parents that dont get it...
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so i quit my job last year and am now on disability payments for my autism/depression and anxiety, my parents have overall been pretty supportive but my dad can be a hard ass and sometimes makes comments that i dont think he means but even so it stil... View more

so i quit my job last year and am now on disability payments for my autism/depression and anxiety, my parents have overall been pretty supportive but my dad can be a hard ass and sometimes makes comments that i dont think he means but even so it still really annoys me. we were talking this morning and he says "since you have decided to not work". like you know i defiantly chose to have a mental break down and be suicidal (not anymore but was while working), even with the full pension im still a good 800 or so less then i used to make a fortnight and its hard i wish i could earn money and have my financial security back but i mentally cant deal with it. i know he probably dosent mean it but it just really bothered me. does anyone have advice for dealing with parents that just dont get it?

Loner567 Not sure what it is that I am feeling ...
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Hi All, I think I'm typing this to try to work out myself, what it is I am feeling whether it's anxiety or depression, or both. For some time now, I have been feeling very low. I would say it probably started 5 years ago when my marriage broke up but... View more

Hi All, I think I'm typing this to try to work out myself, what it is I am feeling whether it's anxiety or depression, or both. For some time now, I have been feeling very low. I would say it probably started 5 years ago when my marriage broke up but how I'm feeling now is much worse than at the time. I have young children, I share them on a week on week off basis, this has been very hard to get used to. Although I have met new people, I haven't been able to properly move on. I have also been in a job I have not enjoyed for this past 5 years, I have just resigned after 11 years. I have three days to go until I get to leave. The job has caused me a huge amount of stress for various reasons, toxic work environment, boredom, over-management and the list goes on. However, it still provided me with some security and now I don't even have that. I thought I would be glad to leave and in many ways, I am but now my future feels even more uncertain than before. I also drink too much. The doctor has prescribed medication, I am starting them tonight. Thanks for reading.

beader Don't want to mix
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Hello, I suffer from anxiety and depresssion. Lately I just don't want to mix with anyone. Have turned down at least 4 outings lately. How do I move past this?

Hello, I suffer from anxiety and depresssion. Lately I just don't want to mix with anyone. Have turned down at least 4 outings lately. How do I move past this?

Sunflower034 I don’t know what’s happening to me
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Hi, I’m pretty new to beyondblue, as I have never really struggled like I am now. A few weeks ago, pretty suddenly, I was overwhelmed with feelings of intense guilt (about things I didn’t necessarily feel guilty about before), and either in conjuncti... View more

Hi, I’m pretty new to beyondblue, as I have never really struggled like I am now. A few weeks ago, pretty suddenly, I was overwhelmed with feelings of intense guilt (about things I didn’t necessarily feel guilty about before), and either in conjunction to or because of that, feelings of intense sadness and stress. For the first three days especially I felt absolutely horrible, guilt was the most overwhelming feeling, and from that feelings of worthlessness flooded in. I apologised to numerous people for numerous things, some warranted, but most not. But more things just replaced those issues, it did get slightly better as I apologised for the things that were really bothering me, but there are definitely still residual feelings of guilt even now from everything I apologised for, especially the big things. Although, thankfully, the feelings of worthlessness have eased. I had a breakdown one night lying in bed in that first week, where the guilt just overwhelmed me and it was a horrible experience, so then I was terrified and anxious about going to bed each night. I was kind of hoping it was just intense pms, as it came on very suddenly and there were often times I just became sad and teary for no apparent reason (which happens sometimes when I’m pmsing), there were also times when something triggered it. I’m so tired of this, it’s constantly on my mind, I can only truly distract myself into forgetting for around 15 minutes at most, sometimes longer if I’m out with friends. It has become a bit easier, I don’t know whether that’s because it’s eased, I’m better at managing it, or because I’ve alleviated some of the guilt. I really don’t know what to do, and it’s so hard to tell whether this is depression or just a bit more intense sadness than I’m used to. How can you tell? I really don’t ever want be back where I was those first 3-5 days, even now it’s still pretty horrible. But it feels like I’m just counting down the days to another breakdown.

discodahlia I don’t know what I’m feeling
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hi everyone, during the pandemic, i have really begun to struggle in my everyday life. work got really tough for me. i have genuinely never struggled so much with what i did, but i thought i was getting better. then a month or so ago, work became too... View more

hi everyone, during the pandemic, i have really begun to struggle in my everyday life. work got really tough for me. i have genuinely never struggled so much with what i did, but i thought i was getting better. then a month or so ago, work became too much, as did uni. now i’m at the stage where my body is exhausted, i’m overwhelmed in everything i do, i get irritated at small things, i’m so unmotivated to do uni and work, i breakdown are least once every week or two weeks. i’ve has to take two weeks of annual leave from work but i still don’t necessarily feel better. i’m just at that stage where i don’t know what to do- i just feel like a failure. one day i’m feeling amazing, and then the next day i just snap and i’m stuck in this strange mood where i sit by myself and don’t speak to anyone. i’ve never reached out like this before, but i’m too scared to go to the doctor because i always think i’m overreacting. i’ve grown up in a family where i’ve learnt to just get up and move on, and i’m not one to share my feelings. i just don’t know what i’m feeling. when i was younger i did have anxiety, but i’ve overcome most of that and working through it. i can’t tell if i’m just experiencing a strain of anxiety again because i’ve never felt this way before. thank you guys for the help, i really appreciate it

Its_ok_to_not_be_ok I Need Help Keeping The Mask On
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I'm starting to loose it, I'm normally always acting like I'm fine but I'm starting to slip and I cant deal with this. I don't want my parents to know or worry as I'm moving out, any tips on how to keep the mask on, the only thing that actually made ... View more

I'm starting to loose it, I'm normally always acting like I'm fine but I'm starting to slip and I cant deal with this. I don't want my parents to know or worry as I'm moving out, any tips on how to keep the mask on, the only thing that actually made me happy has left me so now I'm stuck on the last straw, I'm normally really good at staying "good" but nah man its starting to go... Help Me Please!