I’m lost

[DoubleA]

I’m a 30 year old male carpenter, I have my own business which, I struggle to get up to do work, I’m always behind on bills and paperwork, I’m tired, I find myself unable to get overly excited by things anymore. It gets me down even more when I think about how I was maybe 4-5years ago, when I was very active had all the energy in the world and loved working, how do I get back to feeling and thinking how I used to? I’ve tried anti depressants but did not like the side effects. Any advice would be appreciated

[Steff_apos_shangingon]

I hear you oh so clearly. i think “ we “ wait in anticipation of returning to what we were. Waiting for that magic switch. with anti press ants , not all people benefit from them but they can be useful to pull you out of the dangerous lows.

so what next? Ok, the 3 musts are sleep, but not too much , exercise and eat well. Do you socialise ? Do you have any support ? Family friends? Tell them . Please tell them how you feel as hard as it is to admit it. You do not need to do this on your own . I’ve been hear. I’m a mum with 3 boys to take care of and it’s sooo difficult to find that joy I used to have.

you sound depleted ... the fog will lift... I’m believe this.

Hugs

do you have a diagnosis?

[MsPurple]

Hi DoubleA and welcome to the forums

Myself and may other forum users understaand how you are going through. Not on a personal level. You are not alone with these feelings

Have you talked to a doctor about this. I am just asking because they can do a mental health care plan which would allow you to get 6-10 psychology sessions that is subsidised by medicare (if you require bulk billing let the doctor know so they refer you to a a bulk billing psychologist). Without the mental health care plan medicare won't subsidise the payment.

For me I find that talking to a professional about how I am feeling etc is really helpful. My depression makes me feel like a burden on people sometimes, however by seeing a professional I don't have this concern, as they chose this career.

I find anti depressants are not effective if you are not working on your depression and the feelings behind it. It is like putting a band-aid on a wound that needs to be washed and stitched. Yes it helps it so it won't get worse, but long term it won't completely heal.

In the mean time things to try to help with some of the feelings or to get some understanding of yourself is to maybe try some of these: meditation, self help books (e.g. subtle art of not giving a F***), yoga and a relaxing bath.

Hope some of these are helpful.

[DoubleA]

Thank you for the advice,

i drove to work today with every intention of getting a lot done, I set up my tools started working and now I find myself sitting down after maybe an hour, I just can’t get up, I’m losing money, I’m losing hope, I just don’t know what has led me to this. And the industry I’m in if people knew the lack of work that was getting done they would just think I was being lazy. To say I feel trapped is an understatement.

[Redheaven777]

Hi DoubleA

I know for me when I felt overwhelmed with work and the responsibilities of having to manage everything on my own, I felt trapped. For me talking to my friends about everything helped and so did writing a list of all the things I was worried about. I then looked at what things I could do something about and what things I couldn't and starting working on what I could. I was gradually able to take back control of my life. It does take time. One step at a time, one day at a time. Take care of you first and then you can work on getting back on track with your work.

I wish you all the best.

[lumpyspuds]

Hello DoubleA

How are you doing today? Re: your post yesterday when you wrote that "you drove to work with every intention of getting a lot done". This really resonated with me because most of my days run like this. You clearly are not a lazy person since you made the effort to drive to work and set up your tools. Perhaps tomorrow you will show up at work and set your tools up again. The day after that, perhaps you will drive to work again and set up your tools. Maybe one day next week you will feel strong enough to strike a blow.

Until then, please know that you have given me some hope. I feel so inspired by your determination to get up and show up. You are a very brave person.

Thank you.