I get angry and sad very easily. Anyone else?

[Farang18]

I normally am not the most level headed person anyway but lately I feel like I get really angry and defensive over nothing. Things that never used to bother me now bother me greatly. I am always snappy or snarky with my friends and those around me. They have started saying "oh no don't bring out angry Katherine" when they see me getting annoyed. They would have never said that before because I wouldn't have been annoyed in the first place.

 Whenever I'm angry I can feel the tears welling up as well. Normally after I get really angry I go off and have a big cry alone. When I cry I feel like the world is ending.

 I don't even want to be around my friends and family because I think I'm not a nice person to be around and I want to save them the pain of being in my company. 

 I think thesee feelings have been caused by a very stressful time at work and some major life changes.

 I just want to know if anyone else ever feels like this or if they have any tips on how to deal with these feelings. I want to know if the feelings can go away or if I'm stuck feeling like a crazy person forever.

 Thanks heaps

[White_Rose]

Dear Farang

Thank you for telling us your story and welcome to Beyond Blue.

I think most people who write in here understand where you are. Our usual control mechanisms seem to be in the permanently 'off' position. I imagine it shocks you as well as your friends when you fire up. Having a good cry afterwards is an natural reaction.

As I do not know how old you are I can only guess at the reason. I Possibly you have some form of depression. Has anything particularly distressing happened in your life just lately? This can have a huge effect on our moods.What is happening at work? Can you tell us about your life changes?

My suggestion is to go and have a chat with your GP. Whatever the cause, and it could be very simple, it is important to know what is happening and understand it. If your present feelings are due to the life changes you mention then these feelings will subside as you settle into the changes.

Feeling touchy can be difficult to manage. When you friends say "Don't bring out angry Katherine" it's your cue to take a deep breath and think before you speak. It's OK to disagree with others, usually it's the manner of our comments that upset others. Since I am exactly like you I do know how easy it is to blurt out the first thing on your mind. I did this the other day and just like you dissolved into tears afterwards. My excuse is PTSD, although that's not really an excuse as I believe I should at least try to be polite or shut up.

Be assured you are not crazy. And the fact that you want to shelter your friends from your crankiness shows how far away you are from this.

So go and see your GP, make sure you have a good diet, proper sleep and some exercise. Do I sound like your mother? Please keep us up to date on how you are going. Happy to continue chatting.

Mary

[Stormi71]

Hi Farang, welcome to the forum. I am new here also. 

As White Rose said, changes in personality can be symptoms of depression. I understand how you feel, as I used to be so laid back and nothing bothered me, people used to admire me for my calm demeanor and not letting stuff get to me. One of my first signs of suffering depression was a sudden low tolerance if things that never bothered me before, and how snappy I got at everything. It was almost like constant PMS! I have also snapped at people and then was reduced to tears with shame, because I am a person who really respects others feelings and I usually think before I speak. But sometimes it just comes out. 

[HyperDave]

Hi!

I REALLY relate to how you feel, I have had this problem at various points in life when I have not been going well.

You are definitely struggling, and you deserve and need the right support.

From my experience, I mean it is easy to keep sort of continuing to go forward in life while trying to sort of disregard how your feeling. You are definitely doing the right thing by considering the matter now as opposed to down the track further.

 Speaking to your doctor or a professional is a good idea.

 The problem could perhaps largely be related to the level of stress at your work and life changes, and part of solution may be if these factors can be dealt with in a way so that they are having a less negative impact on you.

Mood and stress related problems can have biological aspects, and its certainly worth talking to a professional because in most cases there are treatments that are quite effective.

I wish you the best, and hope to here that the situation improves for you soon.

[Farang18]

Thank you so Much Hyper Dave. It really helps having someone say that they can relate and having someone respond. I will definitely try and get in touch with a doctor. Thanks again and I hope that everything goes well for you.

[Farang18]

Thank you so much Mary. It really helps having someone say that they can relate and having someone respond. Your advice is really helpful. I will definitely try and get in touch with a doctor. Thanks again and I hope that everything goes well for you and wish you all the best.

[Farang18]

Thank you so much Stormi.   It really helps having someone say that they can relate and having someone respond. Your advice is really helpful. The feeling of constant PMS definitely describes how i'm feeling. Thanks again and I hope that everything goes well for you and wish you all the best.

[Nickname_EACC1E30-4857-4E]

thanks hyperdave feels great to see people feel the same as me thanks farang18?!!!! 😉