i cant cope with school

[inapoloriodpicture]

so i’ve just started year 11- like, JUST started. it’s my third week back and i already feel like i’m drowning. i cant go one day without completely breaking down because i just can’t deal with it. i used to love school, but now i just feel so nervous there and i don’t have anyone that i can talk to. i feel alone around people i used to be close with, and i have no friends now because i just keep isolating myself. i haven’t been to a councillor because i can’t bring it upon myself to speak up when i’m struggling and ask for help. i was suspended last year because the school didn’t think i was in the right headspace to come back until i had seen a psychiatrist, but i only ever went to a doctor who referred me to someone- who i never went to. i’m just in a really bad place, i’ve already missed three days of school and will probably skip more. i don’t know what to do anymore, i already have so much homework but all i can do when i get home is sleep, cry, stare into nothing then wonder where all the time went. when i try to do homework i procrastinate- then get into trouble for not doing homework. i’ve lost all interest, even in the subjects that i was so keen to do. i constantly wish that i moved schools and beat myself up for not knowing how to ask for help. everything just feels so difficult and i don’t know how i’m going to get through two more years of this.

[Aaronsis]

Hi inapoloriodpicture

I am so very glad that you have reached out here when I can feel how overwhelmed and how sad and how frustrated you are right now. Welcome to the BB forum, you will get some wonderful support here and someone to help you through this time. It is really hard to reach out and to ask for help so I am so very proud of you for doing that today.

School is so tricky, Year 11 is tough, please try to be kind to yourself as you dont deserve to be beating yourself up about this. Can I suggest as it is hard for you to talk to someone that you write it down, reach out to as many people as you can to get some support here...write down just like you have here, talk to your school counsellor and get them on board so that they understand and so that they can help you and provide some support to you. I can hear how overwhelmed you are and I think baby steps, try not to think about ALL THE THINGS you haven't done and maybe make a list of them, do them one at a time and just focus on that one task, make your way through the list as hopefully as you tick some things off you will feel a sense of achievement and feel the load get lighter.

Your mental health is really important and it would be so wonderful to make another doctors appointment and to get some professional support here, the sooner you can nail this the easier it will be to manage this wellness journey, you deserve to be happy and you can get there. Once again if you find talking to a doctor is too much you can show them this post or show them some writing and then they will start the conversation with you. It is hard to talk and know were to start and that is why writing is so great, you can just purge everything on to the paper and it is what it is.

We are here for you and to support you and I hope to chat to you some more.

Huge hugs to you

Sarah xxx

[Gambit87]

Hi inapoloriodpicture,

I remember my high school years - constant feeling of being overwhelmed and not knowing who I could talk to about it. When I was growing up there was no information about mental health, talking to your mates wasn't a thing so you just repressed it, got on with it and just put on a happy face.

I had a breakdown a few months ago after years and years of repressing my feelings and sadness because I never talked about it. I have now realise that not opening up sooner and asking for help was my biggest mistake. Now I talk freely about how I feel to everyone - Its to important not to!

You are important, Your mental health is worth it. I cant recommend enough that you talk to your GP again and look into a mental health care plan and a referral to a psychologist. Its hard when you're overwhelmed and don't know where to start but once you're on the right track - things do get easier!

[Summer Rose]

Hi inapoloripdpicture

Welcome to bb and thank you for sharing your story.

I can really empathise with what you are experiencing. I know how tough it is right now but I want to reassure you that with the right help you can find your way through this.

Schools can, and do, provide a lot of help and support to students experiencing a mental health condition, so don't stress too much about missed classes or homework right now. This can be worked out and you are not alone.

What's important is that you seek professional help for your mental health issues promptly and that school is informed about what's happening for you.

I know this because I helped my daughter through her years 11 and 12 whilst she was struggling with a mental health condition. It can be done and there are many ways to do this whilst setting you up for success and safeguarding your health. (I am happy to keep talking with you about this and sharing what I have learned about the educational system.)

Do you have a sibling, parent or care-giver to help you through the next steps? If you do, I suggest you talk to them and ask for their help making appointments to see your GP and school administrators.

If you don't, I encourage you to speak with your year level coordinator or school cousellor (if there is one). If it's easier, just show them your post.

You don't have to do this alone. You can do this and the bb community will help you.

Kind thoughts to you

[Lulu78]

Hi there, i do hope you are feeling a little better? I am dealing with something very similar with my son. Im struggling getting him to school. Does your school have a welfare hub? They should. Can you speak to your year advisor? I would definitely recommend looking into the welfare hub within your school, they have great resources and are wonderful with kids that are struggling. Perhaps it may be worthwhile seeing the psychologist your doc referred you to as thats are great start to help you get back on the right track. Life can be so overwhelming at times and we get so caught up in it its very hard to think clearly. Reach out to someone please, there are always people out there ready to help xx