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I'm 21-years old and literally am the biggest loser. I have almost no friends, outside of people who i work with (So i'm forced to be with them as its work time), i literally never hang out with anyone. I was okay in school, had friends here and there and got a long well with most people, never ever had fights or anything, i got along well. Ever since school finished, my life has gone down hill... I work almost all the time, i do have a good job and study at uni... but i literally have no life. This started from literally the moment i finished school, i hardly had the time to hang out with people and only had so few friends that eventually its all faded away. The People who i thought i was close with, i almost never see. I do have 1 friend i've always been close with... just 1, however tonight really killed me inside with this person. Me and my close friend were at 21st tonight from an old school friend, and I literally left after 2 hours, coz i had no one to talk to. I just sat in a corner, which has been the case for the last couple parties i've been to. My close mate i was with, totally brushed me and spoke to all the old friends i had (people i was very close with in school), and no one really seemed to care and or even add me in conversations. I had to walk out and go home, had never felt like more a loser in my life. I had good relationships with people when i was around 17/18, hence why i was given an invite to their 21sts. However, all i am, is a simple 'hello, how are you going?" type guys to everyone, and then they walk away, and i realise how little friends i have.
I'm really hating my life. I work too much, I've always been working nights when people are out. when i had just finished school and was 18/19, i barely got to hang out with friends, because i was working and i feel it's one reason why this has all gone to shit. I get along with people well, the people i work with all like me, and we work well together. But that doesn't matter, because all i do is work and just lay at home bored when i'm not at worki, wishing i had friends to hang out with. Two other really close friends i had, i saw maybe 3 times in the previous year, guys who i considered my best friends. I doubt i will even see them this year, they have girlfriends and are busy with their own life etc. I literally have no one to spend time with, people from school who were my friends, other people who i had friendships for a long time, are now all gone.
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Hi and welcome
I really believe this problem is one of the easier ones to overcome- seriously.
See I've studied over many years- human relations and had barriers myself a long time ago.
One key is to ask a question of someone, then another and another. Short questions. eg "last time I heard you were in fashion- what now?" "how's you car going? etc. People will talk their head off if it's about themselves.
Secondly, and I think you know this one- others aren't at fault, it is your frame of mind. you don't mention if you are under medication or therapy. A trip to your GP is a must.
Finally. Some easy and cheap ideas. Use google
Beyondblue topic cheap recovery idea- camping?
Beyondblue topic The "gang mentality"
Beyondblue Topic your comfort zone
Beyondblue topic Being withdrawn to achieving confidence
That's only a few, there are many threads here.
A counselor can isolate these issues and bring about a change of direction.
tonyWK
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