My GF (23) and I (23m) have been dating for a couple of months now. She has diagnosed depression, schizophrenia, bipolar 1, ADHD, PTSD, DID (Not severe) . We live an hour apart, she is on medication and goes to therapy. In other words she actively works to better herself.
She has restricted contacted with me (No messages and calls) and has notified me that this is because of her mental health. She currently feels nothing and does not want to unjustly hurt me (emotionally) as she is very irritable as well.
While in this state, she mustered up enough courage to see me after 2 weeks and to tell me what was happening (Prior to this, I had thought she just lost feelings/ distanced herself. She had not let me know what was happening.) She told me she loved me and that if I wanted to leave, I could and she would understand. I chose to stay. She also does not see me as someone to emotionally depend on and she uses her brother for that, who she has been staying with for the last 2 weeks.
I'm not here to question my decision. I'm also not looking to 'save' her or any of that (As much as I want to I know its up to her). I want to ask a question about how people in depression perceive their partner while going through depressive episodes.
We both have Instagram. I post stories quite frequently. Firstly, if I was to continue posting stories, it would seem as if her mental state doesn't worry me much even though it does greatly. Would it be better to withhold posting for now, or should I continue so it shows I'm still well and normal so she won't have to worry about me. Would she even care at all either way in this state?
Another thing im confused about is, when she did meet me today, she was very affectionate and loving, like before her episode. But when I asked her if she would like to stay hang out for the rest of the day, or to plan another day to be together, she declined as if she did not want to see me. So I am assuming she needs space (She still doesn't reply to my messages even after). In this case, what would be the best way to support her? I have already asked her this question, and she says she doesn't know. Those of you who still love your partner, but don't want to see them, what did they do (if anything) to help you from afar.
Thanks
