Felling sad

[Jasmine_R]

I always struggle the most at this time of the month my birthday is this Monday coming and I grew up in foster care bad homes I have no contact with my birth parents or my sis or what not cos they all did me wrong but when it comes to my birthday time I just get really sad lonely upset inside cos I do go out with my friends for mine but iv just always wanted to be normal and have a really birthday with my real family members but I never gotten that when it comes to this time I just fell cheated in this life cos I don’t have it makes me sad cry 🥺😢 comes to this time of the month I fell so alone in this world fell like no one loves me I just hat to get these feelings out I fell lonely

[Sophie_M]

Hi Jasmine R,

We are so glad that you have reached out to our community here tonight, we know it can be really tough to do when you're feeling so low. We're sorry to hear how lonely you are feeling right now, but please know that this is a safe and supportive place where you can express these thoughts and feelings. Our wonderful community is here for you, and can offer as much advice and conversation as you need to help you through this.

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[White_Rose]

Hello Jasmine R

Welcome to the forum. I am sorry to learn you feel so sad and lonely at this time. Are you still in foster care or do you have a place of your own?

Friends are really great but family does make us feel happier. May I ask why you do not have contact with your birth family. I see you think they treated you badly but not sure why unless you mean that it was because they put you in foster. No need to answer this question if it is too upsetting.

As you cannot have a family birthday party can you arrange a party of some sort with your friends. I know the COVID19 restrictions will have an impact on getting together with friends especially if you live in Victoria. However you may be able to go out for a meal somewhere if restrictions have been lifted in your area.

I gather you do not have any professional mental health help. Have you talked to your GP about this? I have found GPs good to talk to about these things. They can also refer you to someone else if necessary. Feeling sad for every birthday is not good. You would manage better if you had some way of coping with these feelings.

Please continue to write in here.

Mary

[Jasmine_R]

Hi I live in Adelaide and I’m going to sleep over my Frieda house for my birthday no not in foster care any more I live bye my sled now those foster homes wear no good for me so not in them now and I don’t have contact with my birth mum and dad cos I gave them I try and all they did was pot me down and it was not good for me two be pot down all the time cos that’s what iv had all my life and it’s not good for all the pot downs so I shut them out of my life but when it comes to birthdays and Christmas all days like that I get sad and lonely cos I don’t have that family love y know what I mean

[White_Rose]

Hello Jasmine

How do you find living on your own? Apart from birthdays I mean. How lovely you are going to have a sleep over with your friend. I guess that makes you part of her family for the night. Hope you have a good time.

As you are living on your own I am presuming you have left school. Do you have a job and what do you do? Have you given any thought to chatting with your GP? It's often the case when you have someone to talk to about the difficulties in your life it helps to sort out your feelings and find ways of managing the uncomfortable emotions. Why not give it a go.

Have a great birthday on Monday and I hope to hear from you again.

Mary

[Jasmine_R]

Hi Mary yes I have left school I be 35 this Monday coming y ask how do I fell living alone it’s ok I guess some times I like to be on my own sometimes I wish I had more company cos I get lonely bye my self some times thanks I try to have a good birthday no I don’t work due the day I like to do art I iv just been through a lot of shit in my life iv never been good with copping with life I want to be happy in life for once but the only time iv really been happy in my life was when I had my pet and my pet die so since he’s death iv just found it really hard to be happy in life now some days are better then others I find it very hard for me to speak about how I’m feeling inside iv always keep my feelings to my self