Feeling overwhelmed and alone

[Lozlo]

Hi everyone,

I am new here but I just needed someone to talk to about how I have been feeling. I think I have depression and I know I have anxiety. Last week it's as if something hit me and my life was turned upside down. I lost any motivation to see anyone and to do anything just empty.

I have been slowly pulling back from my family and friends because I've been feeling like the relationships I have with them are one-sided and that none of them are really willing or wanting to listen to anything I say and I just feel exhausted tired and alone. Every time I try to talk to someone they always seem to think but I will just be fine and I'll be ok next week and that I just need to go for a walk or do something I like to do and it will magically solve everything it just makes me more upset inside because I feel like they're not listening.

I just want someone to listen and hear me and what I have to say without telling me about their life problems and putting that on me as well because I've always feel like I always have to listen to everyone and care about their lives when I need them here for me I'm just tired.

I feel selfish for wanting someone to just let me talk without hearing about their struggles. I am always the rock of all my relationships and I just want someone to be one for me.

Im sorry for the rant I just needed to let it out

[Sophie_M]

Hi Lozlo,

It must be so difficult to be the rock for everyone else and not have someone there for you when you need them.  That sounds really tough and I can understand why you feel tired and exhausted.  It's very challenging to have the need to be heard and not have that be granted.  It sounds like you are trying to reach out to your family and friends and they are just not able to empathise with you and what you are going through.  

It sounds like it is very important to you to have someone listen to you, to have the floor in the conversation and to be heard.  This is a very reasonable request and a very important request to have fulfilled.  You can find this support from one of our friendly counsellors at Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport .  They can be there to hear you on a once off basis or on an ongoing basis, this is your choice.

We are here to support you and you are not alone.  

[theawkwardsensei_514]

Hi Lozlo,

To be honest, I understand how you feel. It takes time to find someone who listens too:) This happens to me a lot when people always tell me their problems but not think that I've got some too. I had advice from a teacher and I hope this will help you too! When you feel like the world seem against you at some times, just know that your metal wellbeing or wellbeing in general has to be held as priority because bottling up the problems of others will make you sick. I'm being serious. Keeping all those problems of others and yourself won't do any good. I know its hard to let it all out, but maybe just try to talk to somebody you're very close to or even a pet or a stranger:) Sometimes letting go of your problems may be letting your tears out and that's OKAY. Crying for a whole solid 3 or 5mins could make you feel better:) Another thing you could do is maybe do something that you love or even play sports or play video games just to take your mind off the feeling of needing someone to lean on:)

I hope that one day, you will find that person who will be your rock:)

*p.s Hope this will help you