Don’t know what to do anymore

[B-xo]

I have a almost 2 year old and a 4 month old I was doing so well but with no support and my partner not coming home from work and just taking them for an hour at least once a week I have crashed and burned I begged my partner for a break and I told him I felt like I was getting bad possibly PND and if I didn’t get a break it would probably get worse 2 months of asking and I’m at that point I’m getting angry over the tiniest things I despise my partner and even more so now that I’ve Confided in him and told him how I’m truely feeling and it’s like he’s ignoring it or just not interested in taking it in because everyday he tells me how sad and in a bad mood I always am in and constantly makes me feel bad for how I am feeling but all I wanted was some support. I don’t have any support and I feel like I’m losing control and I don’t want to be here anymore. I can’t understand how someone can know and be told how down and depressed someone is but just keep making them feel worse and worse. I just don’t know what to I feel so alone and I feel like he just doesn’t care about me at all 😞

[Sophie_M]

Hi B-xo,

Welcome to our valued online forums community. You've come to a safe and non-judgmental place where users give and receive support to each other based on their personal experiences with mental health. We hope you find it helpful.

We are so sorry to hear how distressed and exhuasted you are. We want you to know we're here to provide as much support, advice and conversation as you need.

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[Nurse_Jenn]

Hi B-xo,

Welcome to the forum and I am sorry to hear that you are feeling overwhelmed and unsupported. Having a toddler and a newborn is a huge place of transition for families. Having exceptions of people and being let down when you are in need can be so tough. I really feel you in needing a break as a new mum. I wonder if you have friends or family who are able to support you for an hour so you can get some space to yourself, even if it is just in the other room? I also wonder if you have had any connections with a local mothers group? I also have a 2-year old and have found that connection to other mums to be invaluable.

When you are feeling so low, that you don't want to be here, it's a sign to reach out for some extra help. There are many perinatal services out there that can support your needs specifically. You could start by seeing your GP and tell them you are struggling and need someone to talk with. If this doesn't suit, you could try to use a service like the Perintal Anxiety and Depression Australia (PANDA) counselling service on 1330 726 306 or visit this site https://www.panda.org.au

Another great resource is the Raising Children website. https://raisingchildren.net.au/grown-ups/looking-after-yourself/depression-before-and-after-birth/an...

Calling a support line can really make a difference when you are struggling and feeling overwhelmed. It is so important to find an avenue of support that works for you. You have started here on the forum which is a great step. Please continue to tell your story if you feel comfortable doing so. It is a safe and supportive place and so many people can relate to difficulties when you have young children.

You are not alone.

Sending your strength,

Nurse Jenn

[blueocean123]

Hi B-xo

Im new and want to talk to you as Ive been through similar situation...

Im still depressed single mother so cannot give you solutions, but just wanted to share that feelings.

It is a big job to raise children, I suppose you are doing great because if you were not trying hard, you wouldnt have felt like that.

YOU ARE GREAT MUM!!