Depressed

[JacintaMarie]

Hi

How are you? Sorry, I'm back & I can't get my mind off of the thought that my management at work is not good.

They're okay. I think I need to leave, but I'm terrible at getting jobs. 

Plus too, I'm the only one who thinks our management is not doing a good job! My brain has given up & I don't want to have ideas, as no one likes them & they don't like change.

Most people there think management are the best (I don't say anything, as it wouldn't be professional) , which makes me more lonely as I'm the only one and I feel bad & guilty.

Don't get me wrong, their not bad people, just not good managers, more into the money. 

I'm so bad, that I've been wishing for directors or judges or lawyers to tell them what to do.

I can't seem to rid my brain of this thought, to just do my work.

I can't go to HR, as they can't do anything - I'm an awful awful person, for even thinking how hopeless they are - plus too, they act like their doing a wonderful job - so I'm wrong

Thanks for letting me rant - and I am trying to find another job, but it's hard & than I get more depressed, because there's probably more bad management out there & so there's no point in leaving...

I've been doing really great, & now...

On the bright side, it was a nice day today...

I understand why people get depressed at work, but also sad as management are people, but can't see the wood for the trees, that people can't talk to them, to tell the truth. I can now understand how court cases happen because of it, but that's useless as unless people want to change, they won't. 

But also too, in the world, there's no hope as bad management stays in organisations- no one cares.

[Areasontofight]

Hi there,

Interestingly, have had a similar situation at work in some ways. 
My first observation would be to give yourself a break - they may well be terrible at their jobs, so you may not be wrong in thinking that. 

I was taught a long time ago, Directors often run companies as no-one would employ them.

Point being, you are allowed to be critical…it’s actually a good thing, as long as you’re honest (and honest does not mean berating yourself…I too have that trait and I work daily to change that automatic response).  

When it’s difficult, the “easiest” path is often the “fight-or-flight”…in reality, if the reason it’s challenging because they are just money driven - on the condition what they are doing is legal - it may again be that question of honesty.

Will the grass really be greener? If so, how? Know what you want from your job - really target getting the job you want, don’t just run (again, been there, done that). Jobs are a 2-way street…get what you want out of it too. 

Make sure you take 1 step toward your dream life, every day…it starts with 1 decision every day that is just for you and what YOU want. 

[tranzcrybe]

Square peg in a round hole.
It would depend on what your assigned role was within the company, but your concern seems to be around ethics in business.

With evidence, you could become a whistleblower if people are being deceived or mislead. This would ease your conscience but you would still be seeking other employment whether successful or not.

Perhaps if your conviction is strong enough, you could climb through the ranks to challenge business models and reshape its image over several years - a worthy exercise at least to give you purpose to overcome wrong in an industry you would have to be passionate about.

Essentially though, if working there conflicts with your own sentiments on company policy, it could be more beneficial for your sake to withdraw your services and find a profession that more adequately aligns with your ideals.

Sadly, many businesses focus only on turnover, never on customer relations which, under such misguided opportunism, ultimately leads to their demise as a consequence.

For one with such 'radical' views, you should have faith in yourself and start your own enterprise - the world would welcome a refreshing change!

[Damian]

Hi, I know this situation only too well and am currently dealing with court cases. I see it thus: some of us can see the end result of things, while others continually make heaps of mistakes, all the time convinced that they're right about everything. Most people will support them: the crowd mentality. It's a skill, being able to predict the end result or to alert people to mistakes, but a skill that not many people possess and therefore others won't acknowledge or appreciate it. The only way I cope, and it takes a lot of effort, is to stay away from group decisions and try my hardest to focus on things outside the workplace.

If you're on Facebook, there are some good groups for empaths. Some may find this all hocus-pocus, but on the other hand it may help to read comments from like-minded others.

Anyway, I hope there's something helpful or encouraging in all that! You have my best wishes.

[JacintaMarie]

Thanks for that, have been working on myself & it's hard when you've got people saying my feelings are wrong, or to give them a break.

I think I'm being honest - I know their not terrible people, just not very good organising or as a friend told me, they complicate things. 

[JacintaMarie]

Thanks for that, I am trying to find another job, as I don't think it's going to better & you can't talk to them, as they're feelings will be hurt.

I've even wondered if one day in future, we'll be just staff & have AI as management.

[JacintaMarie]

Thanks, I am trying to focus on other things outside of work - sometimes it makes me think the department where I work is just crap - I can't see the bigger picture - just the library.

They're not horrible people like Donald Trump, but you also can't tell them they're doing a crap job - their feelings will be hurt & upper management don't see it or don't care - they've got things on or maybe upper management is crap, I don't know! 

I don't want to go mad because of stupid people. 

It's just my feeling inside, that their not learning from mistakes - I think Aboriginal women are sensitive & can pick up on things (not all, some). 

It's hard, as you've got people telling you I'm wrong & they're good, but I guess that's what happens in life, no one does anything & things don't change.

Sometimes I wonder if we'll get AI as management, to take out the power & ego of humans.

Throughout history, leaders are the ones that get humans into trouble, but that'll be 100 years in future.

People just say my mind is wrong, wrong, wrong & look for another job & focus outside of work & retire early

[JacintaMarie]

Hi

How are you? I'm an awful person, at times I think where I work the people are horrible.

Well management are, but its just my head that's saying this. I can't seem to see anything good in them.

I've tried but my head just thinks their stupid 

They are nice - just when their happy, when their stressed their horrible.

My brain is stuffed I think - just stuffed & I've been reading mindfulness & everything to help me, but it doesn't work.

Plus too, I can't talk to management, like a normal person, if I say something wrong, they get offended (though this is my brain that's telling me this)

I'm just horrible- calling them stupid etc. 

[Scared]

• Maybe they are stupid, I dont know them but you have to try and put yourself in their shoes.   Management have bosses too and maybe they are stressed out with the job as well.  Try to have empathy for the difficult job they do.  If you can be more understanding then maybe you wont feel as frustrated.   Instead of feeling terrible about thinking bad about them try to feel generous about others have hard lives too and maybe you can start to feel better about yourself as being an understanding empathetic soul.  So everyday try to find something great management did and tell them.  You will feel better and so would they.

[ABC01]

Dear JacintaMarie,

I don't really know anyone who likes their job. Most people are only there to make money to put a roof over their heads, buy food and petrol ect. It is very rare to find someone who loves their job. Not unheard of, but very rare.

Scared does have a point. Everyone has someone above them and they all have jobs they have to get done. So management is the same.

However, if it is affecting your mental health, you need to make moves about it. It sounds as if you have looked into a few things and haven't found them helpful. But there are many more things out there to try.

Perhaps you may need to connect with a GP, to get a Mental Health Plan and that will connect you to a counselor or psychologist.

You are not stupid or horrible. You are stressed and getting more stressed as time goes on. This is the time where you can start to develop problems, that turn into disorders etc. You have recognized something is not right. So now is the time to act.

I hope you know you are not alone.

We are here on the forum if you have more to say. Usually there is more going on that just one aspect in our lifes.

ABC01