Dealing with Regret

[WOahYeah_]

WhatYouWant!

[smallwolf]

hi and welcome to the forums.

It sounds s though something has happened that is causing you feelings of regret and guilt and you are now ruminating on this and thinking that the worst outcome is what will happen. And when you starting to ruminate on something that can really suck. One answer to your question is that we each have to work out what works for us. What works for me might not work for you so I will tell you what works for me...

1. reframing thoughts

2. writing it all down

3. having a conversation with mysef... and then what?

4. finding some way to distract myself

5. using some technique like mindfulness or grouding for above item.

6. talk to a friend

without knowing what the issue is, and whether you can talk about it here... ? If you found that helpful people will here supportive and without judgement.

Tim

[amberlite]

Hello to all and to Honey, I tend to use forgiveness. I can forgive my self for paying attention to unwanted thoughts. I can forgive myself for having unwanted thoughts. I can forgive myself for doubting and for losing sight. When I exhaust forgiving myself then I try to find things in my life to be grateful for. Clean air I am grateful to live where the air is free. Running water yes I am grateful for showers and drinking H2O straight from the tap. The momentum of forgiveness and gratefulness can and does help me, and I hope it brings you some relief. Best wishes for you recovery. A

[james1]

Hello honeysushi,

Welcome to the forums. I'm sorry to hear you feel sick just thinking about both what has happened, and what might happen in the future. It sounds like you're really struggling to escape that mindset.

In my own experience, I find talking about it really helpful. It can be really scary to do that, so it could help talking to a complete stranger, or perhaps someone who is not related to anybody involved. Have you ever tried calling the BeyondBlue support line (1300 22 4636)?

Otherwise, writing it down can kind of simulate talking to a stranger by just getting it out of your mind and onto paper.

If you feel comfortable, we are here for you and would be able to listen to whatever you have to say.

James