Cancer + depression

[Jubba]

Hi, bugger I’m not sure what to say! I guess it’s this my ex when she found out that my cancer was getting worse left the very next day cleaning out the bank accounts cancelling the RSPCA insurance and his Vet Pay for my dog who needs surgery on his hind leg I suppose this might sound trivial to most people and it might well be it might be me that’s looking at this the wrong way but she cleaned out the banks and moved to America so I have no chance of getting any of it back ever again so being left without any warning just one day everything is gone and good riddance to her!

my situation is dire I can’t get a medical clearance to go back work because of the cancer plus before she left she gave me a good dose of the worst flu I’ve ever had the flu turned into pneumonia then to pleurisy then to shingles I have a collapsed left lung and only 40% capacity left in my right lung and on top of this I had 2 strokes possibly 3 strokes and that was in the first month after her leaving me in a pile of dung but I’m happy she’s gone at least I’ll die in peace or maybe this is will get a lot worse I could fall over pass out and get eaten alive by ants!

…and with all that going on I have very little money left to pay the rent and other bills I have no friends or family and I don’t really want any but some advise might be helpful, see I don’t take drugs I don’t drink and because of this fact I’m not considered for any urgent help or any support as I’ve had none except for the doctor screwing up on trying to remove a cancer from my left cheek on my face not my butt anyway it’s now spreading over my face and into my left eye and on top of this I can’t afford the surgery to help my dog this part really sucks and hurts me a lot to the point I can’t find a solution to the problems they have overwhelmed me in every way so everyone on this site I guess I know how you all feel maybe not all but a small amount of you nice people that are also suffering and with that, that’s all I’ve got to say.

PS I can’t even talk to a councillor or a psychiatrist cause I might mention the word medical euthanasia then they call the cops and I get shoved into ambulance and dragged of to some place unknown this has happened countless times over and over again then they let me go with all the same problems but worse cause all my neighbours think I’m crazy thanks to the cops and ambos this last part might be true but still it’s not helpful it’s very damaging to one’s self esteem that has already been crushed by circumstances.

maybe this is how lambs feel when being surrounded by wolves!

Kind Regards

Jubba

[indigo22]

Hi Jubba,

Welcome to the forums and thank you for reaching out to us.

I am so sorry to hear of all the difficulty you are going through, life can be quite brutal at times.

Firstly, I can only imagine what a shock it has been to have your wife leave you in such a way, and to also leave you with few resources.

You have an abundance of medical issues you are dealing with, are you getting any financial support through Centrelink at present? If not, I think this should be your first move as you would be entitled to a Health Care card.

I would also like to suggest that you meet with or speak to a financial counsellor, this is a free service and they can look into what financial support and resources are available to you that you may not be aware of.

I understand that life feels overwhelming at the moment. I have been dealing with depression since I was about 12 (now 63), I have also had cancer and been through some extremely tumultuous times, so I do empathise.

You are trying to deal with so many things at once that it feels insurmountable. Try taking it one step at a time, work out what the priorities are and take action with those first.

Have you tried calling any of the helplines? They can be invaluable when you are struggling.

Nothing you have said sounds trivial, if you would like to continue this conversation, we will be here for you.

Take care,

indigo

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear Jubba,

A very warm and caring welcome to our forums…🤗,

I’m so deeply sorry for all your going through, life is so not fair for many people, my heart goes out to you….I agree with Indigo that contacting Centrelink for help is a must to get some financial help with fortnightly payments, rent assistance etc…if you’ve not done that…

What your partner does was heartless….(sorry if I sound judgemental), I don’t mean too, and that’s my opinion only……When things go wrong with our health or finances this is when people in relationships should be their unconditionally for each other😢…..

It’s been nearly 1.5 years ago now, my little fur baby shattered her back knee and needed surgery, I didn’t have the money to pay for it, my vet put me onto VetPay, they paid for the surgery and I pay them back fortnightly…(still am), just thinking maybe that’s something you could look into….I didn’t belong to VetPay when this happened…maybe give them a ring and see what they say..

You’re dealing with so much right now.  not sure, if all, but some hospitals have social workers who can help you in many ways, one is to have a health care worker come to yours on a regular basis to help with your mental health…(depression)…as well as physical health, maybe give your hospital a ring and find out if they provide any service there…Charity’s like St. Vincent De Paul, Salvation Army, can be a help with paying utility bills…as well as food hampers/vouchers…

Not sure if I helped at all…but wanted to let you know that many of us here care about you and want to support you through this as much as we can…please talk here anytime you feel like it…

Thinking of you with kindness and care Dear Jubba..🤗.

Grandy..

[quirkywords]

Jubba welcome to the forum.Thanks for telling us your story.

you have  coped and are coping with so much pain .

Indigo and Grandy have made helpful suggestions. I wanted to say I am listening to you and hope you get some practical support.