Bipolar 1

[K_Alex]

Hullo everyone, i am going through a really bad trip in my life. My mind is as clouded as ever to the point where i would sob quietly in a corner alone as i do not want my kids to see me. My wife has Bipolar 1. She wants a divorce. She is having a manic episode and its the second time. I didnt pick up the signs until it was too late. She doesnt want the kids nor does she want to even hear my voice as it irritates her. She is starting a new business venture and she thinks that we are hindering her chance of success. She is doing the similar business when she had her first episode which failed. I did my research and is much prepared the second time. I am leaving her alone to do what she has to do. But one thing that got me is that i didnt know that someone can get a manic episode while on anti depressant. She is still peaking and i am dreading the moment she crashes. Last time she tried to kill herself. First i would like to ask anyone if they had or know of someone who had a manic episode while on anti-depressant. And secondly, what can I do to prepare her for the crash. I am going through a lot of hardship while trying my best to keep my head out of the water and be as objective in my reasoning. I really want to save my marriage because she deserves it and i wont be able to live with myself if one day we divorce and she commits suicide.

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

Most certainly get medical help asap.

I'm sorry you are both struggling at the moment. Medication imbalance is possible, excess anti depressants while on mood stabilizers can be problematic for example.

Keep in touch

TonyWK

[K_Alex]

Hi Tony,

Thank you for your response. My wife is not talking to me as you know. I suggested she get help but she has been listening to her friend only. I managed to have her number and we had a long chat. She is trying to bring her to the GP on the 29th of Oct. And if she keeps postponing the date, which she had been doing prior, we agreed that we might have to get a mental health intervention.

[quirkywords]

K Alex,

I too want to welcome you to the forum. You are very supportive and I can see it can be overwhelming. I am glad you are seeking medical help.

I have bipolar and I know when manic everything annoyed me , and no one could reason with me.
sometimes the signs are hard to pick with the the start if Armani as things can seem fine and you relax and then they escalate so quickly.

Do you have support fir yourself because it can be very draining ?

Feel free to post here as much as you like.

quirky

[K_Alex]

Hi Quirky,

Thanks for your advice. It has been nearly a month since your last post and a lot of things have happened. She was brought to a psychatrist by her friend and was given some medication to stabilise her mood. She is still in her manic phase. We barely talk as she cannot stand my voice. I have been making sure she takes her meds everyday and that is all i can do. On my part, following your advice, i have been seeing a psycologist to help me deal with the situation and cope on how to raise the kids when the mum is absent. I feel a bit better than last time and I can only wait for her to get better to have any future plans.

[quirkywords]

Hi Kalex

thanks for your update.I am glad you are getting help and I hope the suggestions will assist you.

I wonder if there is a pattern to her mood swings that you have noticed. Mine were mostly 6-8 weeks high 6-8 weeks low, although I didnt notice this for years.

When she is not manic how does she relate to you and the children. ? Does go from high to low or is there an in between time?

I am glad you feel a bit better. Have you looked at the Black Dog Institute webiste as that had ideas for people living with someone with bupolat.

Also There is a Thread here This bipolar Life where you would be very welcome to just say hello or ask questions.

Take care of yourself and keep in touch here if that helps.

[Darls]

I have Major depression/anxiety for 7 weeks now and I am under care by public mental health outpatients. I don't know what to do, I have contacted MH several times and they say wait for the medication to get its therapeutic range. I have had 2 increases, do you dip down into depression when you have an increase of meds? These are the questions that cannot be answered. I feel I am not going to get better, I am trying hard to be positive but this depression/anxiety is crippling.